Despite My Best Efforts New Yorkers ARE Using Condoms…
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25 June 2008 | 7 Comments
[To be clear, the title is a bit tongue and cheek – see my comment in the comments section…]
A new report is out today from the NYC Department of Health (PDF) that shows that a surprising number of New Yorkers are using condoms… Here are some of the findings:
- Gay men with multiple partners are more likely to use condoms than straight guys or bisexual guys. 75% of gay men used condoms in their last sexual encounter compared to 63% of straight guys and 55% of bisexual guys.
- 23% of gay men had 5 or more sex partners in the past year (compared to 6% of straight guys).
- 62% (straight + gay) of guys with 5 or more sex partners used a condom the last time they had sex.
- Overall 60% of New Yorkers used condoms in their last sexual encounter.
- 18-24 year olds (men + women, gay + straight) are more likely to use condoms.
I’m sorta surprised the the numbers – that so many guys are using condoms… Only 25% of gay sex in New York is bareback. But the good news is that the percentage is nearly double for bisexual guys (45%). [Great news for us, but possibly scary for the women they fuck who don’t know they’re bisexual.]
I’m also really surprised that only 23% of gay guys in New York have 5 or more sex partners. Hell, I had double that the other night at the bathhouse in Montreal (if you count oral in with fucking).
According to the spreadsheet I’m keeping of my hookups, if I keep up at the pace I’ve gone so far this year, I’ll get my bare dick in 89 holes I’ve never fucked before, plus the ones I have fucked for a total of 113 sexual encounters, and I’ll deposit 87 loads in guys’ asses… If you add in oral sex at places like backrooms and bathhouses, I’d be well over 100 sex partners this year… And I don’t even consider myself to be all that sex-obsessed… I mean there are guys who are getting a lot more sex than me… There are plenty of nights (like tonight) when I’m just not in the mood…
Even in my slower years I was getting in about 25 new asses each year and depositing slightly fewer loads than that… The concept that over 3/4ths of gay guys have fewer than 5 sexual partners when a slow year for me is 25 (plus oral) is sorta shocking… I mean who are these people and why aren’t they having sex?
I’ve been chatting with “BareBottom1980” – the blogger out in Omaha. He sorta proves a point that anyone can have a good sex life. He had gotten really heavy at one point, he’s lost a lot of weight but would still be considered “fat” by a lot of guys, but that’s not stopping him – he’s having a great ‘ol time taking loads. What changed for him? He just decided to be a slut… He’ll take a load from just about anyone… There are plenty of guys willing to nutt in his ass (even in the Omaha), and he’s loving every minute of it…
So there’s really no good excuse for a sucky sex life. Get your ass (or dick) out there and have fun!
Bottom line – we’ve got some work to do… To get down the percentage of guys using condoms, and to get up the percentage of guys with lots of sex partners…
I’m a little surprised by this post. I’m not a barebacker, but I find your blog titillating and I’ve been reading it for quite a while. I always thought you were the kind of guy who distinguished between his own limits about sexual safety and those of others. Basically, that you had thought long and hard about the level of risk you were willing to take with yourself and others, but that everyone had to decide for themselves what that would be.
But now you wrote a post about how more people should stop using condoms? It doesn’t seem to jive with what I remember of your opinions that are more than a year old.
Anyway, I guess I’ll still read your blob, because I do find parts of it hot. I just wish you’d let other people make their own decisions about their sex life, as you want others to let you do.
@milehigh – the post is mostly about the fact that i thought a greater percentage of gay guys were barebacking. and i’m also a bit shocked that gay guys are so conservative sexually (condoms and numbers of partners).
and also, my thinking has changed over the past year… but i still think people have to make their own decisions.
my saying more guys should go raw is sorta like people who like fords saying more people should buy fords…
hey i get loads even though im fat 🙂
And here I am heavier than I want to be and getting plenty of sex… I’m seeing a trend here… 😉
Actually, several of my regulars are into me because I’m heavier…
Just to be clear, I didn’t mean to imply heavy guys aren’t attractive or anything like that… It was more to say that the image of gay sex that’s promoted in porn is usually trim, muscular or thin guys. So there’s this impression that they’re the ones having all the sex. Which isn’t the case at all…
A good case and point is my boyfriend. He thinks he needs to lose some weight and firm up before trying to hookup – he’s afraid guys will reject him ’cause they think he’s fat… And he’s only 128 pounds! The idea that he’s not attractive enough to have sex is ridiculous. But he looks at a lot of pretty boy porn and that’s the message he’s gotten…
I didn’t take it that way at all. I was just pointing out that I found out that my assumptions that guys would reject me for my size wasn’t as accurate as I thought it would be.
Sure, I don’t get as much cock as I would if I were thinner, but then “in a perfect world”…