How Long Before This Anti-BB Guy Starts Barebacking?

19 November 2013 | 8 Comments

Just found an “open letter to Sean Cody” over at Queerty. The guy is bitching at Sean Cody for going bareback – he’s literally “distraught” about it. But look at what he says and you can see he knows bareback is better. Here are some quotes from his letter (emphasis and [commentary] are by me)…

I know that for years the straight adult film business has gone condom-less. Condom-less porn is hot. There is no denying it. In my own life, I always use condoms until I know someone for a very long time and even then you wonder, right? But guys, seriously, I am worried about your site. I am in my 30s and I have literally heard 18-year-olds say the following: “If I get something, it doesn’t matter. I go get on pills and I’m fine.” I actually moved over and got in the middle of this conversation at a bar. My buddies thought I was an idiot, but I wanted to understand.

So I asked them, “Why do you think not using a condom is okay?” The answer came, “Dude, no one wears condoms anymore that was like 10 years ago when you had to.” I said what the heck. Another guy, who looked to be about 20, jumped in to add, “Well, the porn companies stopped using them.”

Wow. So you see that at least in some cases these “kids” are watching porn and then thinking it’s okay. No one looks at the brief warnings you put at the beginning of the videos when you are horny, guys. I mean, look, it is hotter. …

Get with the facts. As a bottom, you can’t tell if a guy is wearing a condom or not. [That’s useful info!] I will admit as a top I don’t love wearing a condom, but I do it anyway because it is the right thing to do for me and my partners.

… I am sure I am going to receive a form letter from you that says something like “every performer is tested before the shoot and then retested” or some crap like that. But most guys who has seen one of your movies does not have the foggiest notion about all that. And even if he does, what are the chances that it will be on the top of his mind when he meets a guy while out drinking at a bar? Instead, it’s the image of the allure of raw sex that will be emblazoned in his mind. And this means me, too: I’ve fantasized about some of your guys at the very moment of decision when I’m with a guy. Even for me, it’s getting harder and harder (pardon the pun) to put aside the image. I’ve stopped watching a lot of your raw videos for that very reason: to avoid the temptation in my own sex life. By watching hot, healthy-looking guys going at it in porn I risk desensitizing myself to the dangers, especially since nowadays, the dangers can seem far in the future.

A lot of men of all ages no longer understand how dangerous HIV remains, but particularly young men who have not seen AIDS kill. They see HIV-positive friends (and even some porn models) thriving with treatment. And that’s good. But HIV still damages your body, and the treatment can be toxic over the long term.

So bottom line – young guys see the reality of HIV today – that it’s a pretty manageable disease and because they don’t fear HIV, they bareback – because it’s hotter than having sex with a condom.

If you were a marketer trying to sell people on the idea of safe sex that letter’s gotta be pretty discouraging though. Even the guys who are anti-bareback keep complimenting it saying how hot it is. The guy who wrote the letter is even going as far as not watching bareback porn ’cause he thinks it’ll make him want to bareback.

So to the guy who wrote the letter – Dude – you already want to bareback. You’re craving it. Just relax and enjoy your life. You only go around once. In 10 years when you’re in your 40s you’ll regret that you didn’t bareback more when you were younger. The guys who become poz today will have a very different experience than the guys who became poz years ago (provided they get tested regularly and find out quickly). And if you’re still worried – go on PrEP…

How long do you guys think it’ll be before the guy starts barebacking on a regular basis? I give him a year – two at the most.

Happy Easter!

4 April 2010 | 2 Comments

Got this pic from HDK last year. Thought it was funny…

Painted Easter Eggs

As you probably know, HDK is Hot Desert Knights. You can see their stuff at,,,, and

Intelligence And Money Have No Correlation

30 September 2009 | 1 Comment

OK, this has nothing to do with gay sex, but it’s the funniest thing I’ve seen in a while. It’s three of The Real Housewives of Orange County trying to answer questions put to them by Jay Leno

That’s the official version, but the full version is on YouTube and is much better…

I knew I liked Jeana best – at least she got some of the questions right. But stop and think for a moment that these women are incredibly wealthy and yet they have no understanding of history or current events, but they do vote. (I know Vicki is a staunch Republican).

And we wonder why America is in the condition it’s in…

Another Reason Why I’m A Top

7 August 2009 | 4 Comments

So for some strange reason yesterday I decided I wanted to have a butt plug up my ass. When I took a shower in the morning I got the butt plug all soapy and tried to get it up my ass, but it wouldn’t go (I was too tight).  I gave up but then decided to try a few minutes later and managed to get it in there, but it was excruciatingly painful, so I took it out. The funny part was my bf said “that was a long shower” as I was getting out… 😉

Later in the day I decided to try again. Used lube this time and managed to get it in and endured the initial pain. Walked around for a bit with it in, sat at my desk. But it was pushing on my bladder making me want to pee. Finally I wanted it out so I went to pull it out and sorta squatted over the toilet as I did it. Well, I wasn’t clean and a huge amount of shit came out with it. Got all over the place and the butt plug wound up in the toilet. So I had to clean myself up, clean the toilet, and fish the butt plug out of the toilet and then clean it off. (Yuck!)

Needless to say, I should stick to being a top!

What Exactly Is “Traditional Marriage”?

2 June 2009 | 1 Comment

This video goes over everything you need to know about “traditional, biblical marriage”. But just remember – while it turns out it’s very inclusive – it just doesn’t include you

Also available in HD on YouTube

“Traditional Marriage”

29 May 2009 | 9 Comments

I haven’t been political for a while now, but saw these and thought they were funny…

As much as I want gay marriage I wasn’t all that upset by the Prop 8 ruling. I think if people in the middle of the road see that the discrimination is real they’ll care a bit more next time it’s in their power to vote or sign a petition.

And if you haven’t heard, the two lawyers who fought each other on Gore v. Bush (a Democrat and a Republican) are teaming up to take the Prop 8 fight into federal court. Their argument is that it’s fundamentally unconstitutional to create separate institutions for separate classes of people – in this case domestic partnerships for gay men and lesbians, and marriage for heterosexuals. And that marriage is a “fundamental right”. I’m somewhat surprised that they didn’t also mention how dangerous it is for a majority to be able to take away a right of a minority, deemed constitutional by the courts, via a popular vote. One of the purposes of the courts is to protect minorities from the tyranny of the majority. But that may factor into their arguments down the road – who knows…

Not surpringly most of the big gay rights groups are going ape shit over the lawsuit saying a negative precident could set us back years. I said pretty forcefully last year that I don’t agree with the hyper calculating approach to gay rights. I mean I get where they’re coming from and I know they have good intentions, but it just seems totally wrong to me to be polite and patient about discrimination. Call a bigot a bigot, be angry, challenge them…




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