A fuck with consequences…
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18 October 2008 | 16 Comments
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Earlier this week I had a post saying I was looking for someone to help with image tagging for the porn blog. A 20 y.o. guy responded and came in on Friday for the first day of freelance work. When I told him to come in I had no clue what he looked like and my boyfriend said I should have asked for a picture since he didn’t want someone unattractive working in our apartment. He also said that I could only have sex with the guy if he could have sex with him too…
The guy shows up, and he’s totally my type – an attractive, young Latino. My boyfriend met him, before he left to go downtown to get a haircut and hang out with a friend. The two of us worked the whole day, things went well, and then at the end of the day he was sorta hanging around and we started talking. One thing lead to another and at one point I asked what sorta guys he was into. He said the opposite of him – older, beefy tops… About a minute later my dick was out and he was giving me a blowjob.
Now, the funny part is I wasn’t really intending for it to happen. Having a cute guy around working with me was more than sufficient. But he seemed to want it, so things progressed…
He gave a really good blowjob and then we moved things into the bedroom. I wanted to fuck, he seemed to want to get fucked, but I was a little worried about him being clean. I haven’t used our shower shot in years and when I pulled it out I figured out it didn’t attach to the sinks and was way too much trouble to attach to the shower. So I told him to just go and take a good shit, and I hoped for the best…
He came out, gave me another good blowjob, but I wanted to fuck him. I should mention that with no pills, I was rock hard. This kid totally did it for me…
So he gets on all fours on the bed, I lube up my dick and his hole, and I push in. I don’t get in the first few times ’cause he was really tight, but I just made sure I was lined up properly and pushed harder until I was in. Given how tight he was I was sorta surprised he didn’t have a problem taking my dick. But once I got in he seemed like he was good.
He definitely felt good. Pretty quickly I had him on his stomach with his tight little hole massaging my dick. It felt so good… I knew it wouldn’t take long to cum, so I didn’t rush it, but when it finally came, I didn’t hold back and he got a nice big load deep in his ass…
We then laid there and cuddled. He seemed to really like the quiet time. I’m guessing he likes the intimacy with someone who’s old enough to be his dad. I gotta say, I liked it too…
As he was about to leave my boyfriend came home. A business-related problem had come up late in the afternoon and my boyfriend was sorta rattled by it. After the guy had gone my bf asked me if I had had sex with the guy, I said yes, and he started railing on me for that. He was mostly upset about the other problem, but he went on the attack about the sex. Yeah, having sex with someone who you’re working with makes the situation complicated, and it wasn’t good from that point of view, but honestly – an attractive 20 y.o. Latin guy offered me his ass and I was supposed to say ‘no’?
It’s sorta a bummer that I lost a lot of the early blog posts when I migrated off Blogspot. These were the sorts of issues I was dealing with back then. My bf has a history of wanting to control my sex life. I half-way let him do it for years, but a breaking point came in early 2004. In this case he told me he didn’t want me having sex with someone who was working for me unless he could fuck the guy as well, but at the same time he says he wants someone attractive working for us.
I don’t know, it’s really complicated, and I’m sorta fed up with the whole situation. It feels like every couple weeks there’s something little between us that results in me getting out of my groove and losing a day or so of productivity with work. And 2-3 times a year there’s something like this. Next month we’ll have been together 11 years. There are things that are great about our relationship, but I honestly wonder if I wouldn’t do better if I were single.
It’s just such a pain in the ass. Why can’t he just be happy that we’ve got a hot young bottom hanging around the apartment? Now it’s all complicated. In so many ways our relationship works, but at times like this I have zero interest in fighting to keep it going. Yet breaking up after 11 years of interdendence isn’t exactly fun or easy, but that’s hardly a good reason to stay together…
So we’ll see how it turns out…
What’s stoppin’ bf from fuckin’ him ? When your bf said “so long as he could fuck him too” he meant “fuck him at the same time” ?
If bf had NOT come in when cutie was leavin’, what do you envision would have occurred when bf got home and started asking you about your new worker? Interesting post.
Hi Rawtop,
I’ve been baffled by your relationship for a while. You are married to this guy but you don’t have sex. You have an “open” relationship but he still tries to limit your sex life even though he isn’t meeting your sexual needs. From a British perspective, the idea that you can only have “attractive” people in your apartment seems bizarre and prissy.
You’ve worked out that there are fewer TOPS than bottoms, so TOP guys are always in demand. You could have regular fuckbuddies who would be glad to take your loads and YOU would be the only person placing limits on your sex life.
I guess after eleven years you may have shared business/property interests and in the U.K. some couples stay together for the sake of the mortgage. I’m curious as to what you get from your partner. Do you even kiss and cuddle any more?
Genuinely curious, Dave
good luck to the both of you whichever route you take..x
You say that in so many ways your relationship works. Dude! You gotta put some stock in that. That is WAY harder to come by than a hot bottom who will take your bare dick.
Look… I’m NOT saying you should stay with your bf — I have NO idea of your personal situation. BUT you gotta get a dose of reality. Relationships are HARD. And require LOTS of work and compromise and bad times and fights and all that stuff. It comes with the territory.
You’ve now posted a public comment about your dissatisfaction and questions about your relationship. That’s inherently aggressive to your bf, and, if he wants this relationship to continue, he’s probably totally freaked out about it. You need to get outta your own ego space and figure this out with him.
He was in a bad place cuz of work. You fucked a guy who works for you without your bf being in on it, as pre-arranged. He’s pissed. You’re pissed. OK. Now drop all the bullshit and figure out what’s kept you together ELEVEN years… is it good? is it because you don’t have anything better to do? what’s the basis of it?
From what you say it doesn’t appear he was angry at you at that time and that he was more angry at whatever broke or went wrong at his place of work. There’s nothing wrong with that, shit happens and we both know it.
On the other hand it appears that from his perspective there is something wrong with you sleeping with the worker from his point of view. Whether or not it’s fair that you can’t read his mind, that you don’t know the lotto numbers and you’re not the next US Presidential candidate…let’s just accept that from his perspective something is wrong.
Unfortunately, I’d be inclined to say that you’re going to have to tactfully work out what – I’m probably 1000 miles away and offer, as an example, “Your boyfriend meant both together” and not “separately”. Again leaving aside the obvious, you’re interested in Latinos, he’s cute and he throws himself at you. I’ve seen plenty of boyfriends who seem to think their partners have a magical “turn off the sex drive chastity trick” and then throw a wobbly when it isn’t true.
So, I don’t think the problem is yours. It’s his. And there’s the rub. It’s not both of your problems and has, this time, manifested itself rather unhealthily. I’d be inclined to say that if you’d written something like, “My boyfriend said we had to sleep together with the worker or not at all, as in at the same time, I jumped worker’s bones alone and then the boyfriend got mad made worse by a work related issue” then I’d say, well, just what, dear, were you expecting.
So, I’d say work out what his issue is and see if you can come up with something that works for both of you that hopefully involves both of you doing something or agreeing to something. You could do something unilateral but that’s what that Trojan Prince did and started the Trojan war.
Up to you, I guess but there’s some arm chair analysis.
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Difficult choices. If you stay things may not get better but you have some stability in a life that is already filled with lots of choices and options. If you leave you may feel lonely even when with others but you would likely have more sex and more playing. Which do you want more of?
Its hard to give some advice,since I’m not quite sure what the foundation is between you and your bf is.Obviously,you both seem to have free reign over your sexual life outside the relationship,and after 11 yrs together,it seems to work for both of you.My congrads to both of you if that works. I’m curious how often your bf and you have sex together? Do you and your bf offer each other the emotional support,but satisfy your sexual needs with other men? I for one,question if men can be sexually monogomous.Our need for sex is never ending. I think many relationships would kill for an arrangement such as yours.With 11 years below your belt,its only natural that sometimes it seems a fight to keep it steady.If you were single,you would be having sex with many guys,just as you are now-but would you have that emotional support that your bf seems to offer you-I think not.
Work it out. You have the best of both worlds my friend. I think its worth the fight.
Just some thoughts of mine
Rawtop, leave! Is there even ONE poster on this website that wants you to be with your boyfriend? You have not been satisfied by each other for years. It is like you are essentially friends. But you are not married and you have no children, so what is keeping you there? This romantic relationship turned into a wistful friendship a long time ago.
If it feels like work, something is wrong. That’s how you know when something is right in your life. No matter how much you work at it, it never really feels like hard work. It is just doing what you love. Now it is one thing to sacrifice and be at a job you do not like (but you have a great relationship at home.) But the job AND the relationship cannot simultaneously suck! Married men work hard and sacrifice so that they can come home to something beautiful and satisfying or put up with a bad marriage/home life so that they can pursue their satisfying career or be with their children. But you currently have lots of sacrifice and no benefit.
God bless you and good luck.
I don’t get it. You have three shitstorms a year that punctuate a good relationship… and you’re gonna break up? Have you had a relationship that doesn’t have shit in it? Doesn’t exist.
Does your bf agree that this just isn’t working well enough to try to fix it? Or is this you punishing him for not letting you do exactly what you want when you want?
OK, that was kinda harsh — and I didn’t mean it to be. But between “in many ways our relationship works” and “good parts of the relationship”… I’m having trouble swallowing the idea that you’re gonna chuck this.
Sorry, I completely don’t agree with NYCBottom28… “if it feels like work, something is wrong” — BULLSHIT — relationships ARE work, at some times more so than others, LOTS of work.
Is the work worth it? Only you and your bf know that.
If you only got 11 years…you don’t know nothin yet. Talk to me after 22 monogamous years (and I’m only 42 years old)… 😉
All relationships are tough.
Trading in men is like trading in cars…it’s just trading one set of problems for another. If you can’t make what you’ve got work, chances are you never will be able to make anything work…and then you just end up lonely and alone.
Personally, I’d hope to die with someone I loved at my side, not alone, but it’s your choice…
I don’t know how it is in New York, but out here in LA it seems that 95% of the (admittedly quite small, proportionally) number of guys under 28-30 who bareback are latino. I’m not complaining…I quite like being something out of the ordinary (i.e. a totally uninhibited white bareback 24 y/o with a real job and no addictions or limits…hooray!). But do you find that is true in NY too? I guess it works out for you since you’re into that type, anyway, I’m just curious.