So how many of you think that’s cum, and how many think it’s something other than cum like hand lotion?

A discussion on bareback porn on another site got me thinking… Barebacking is a lot like smoking. It’s addictive and it can kill you. So how does it compare?

According to UNAIDS/WHO, 21,000 people died of AIDS in North America and 12,000 in Western and Central Europe. That’s 58 people a day in North America and 33 a day in Europe. By comparison the CDC reports that 418,000 people die just from cigarette smoking every year in the United States alone. That’s 1145 a day.

I get that some of the people who are dying every day of AIDS acquired HIV by barebacking. But I bet the people who are bothered by young guys barebacking don’t think twice when the same guys light up a cigarette… I’m not trying to say they’re being willingly hypocritical – personally I think society is having a moment of group think where the big killers don’t get the attention they deserve and smaller ones that are seen as somebody else’s problem get all the attention. HIV is a popular one ’cause people see it as avoidable. But smoking deaths are avoidable too and kill so many more people. But HIV is seen as something that affects unpopular minorities like gay guys and drug addicts so it gets focused on.

On the other side of the coin, as a community this does affect us greatly and it’s something we need to come to grips with. Personally I think one of the huge issues is how ineffective the safe sex message is these days. It needs a total rethink but it’s such a touchy subject people don’t want to touch it with a 10 foot pole. Some people will cry foul if the message is anything but “use a condom every time”. On the other hand I’ve seen guys get addicted to barebacking in a monogamous relationship and then not be able to quit barebacking when the relationship ends. So who knows what the message should be. I know I don’t know…

But for me, as with smoking, it comes down to personal choice. People choose to smoke and some die as a result of that choice. Likewise people choose to bareback and some die as a result of that choice. The difference of course is that the damage from smoking builds over time where with barebacking the damage happens all of a sudden and you don’t know when that will be. So a teen could smoke for a year or two and stop without much consequence. But if they bareback it’s an all or nothing game. The damage may have been done by the time they decide to stop.

Just as we don’t bar people from smoking, we can’t bar them from barebacking. But society has put limits on things like advertising of tobacco and alcohol, and the sale of those products. The issue is what limits, if any, are appropriate for barebacking?

Some people have suggested a system similar to straight porn where there’s an industry sponsored non-profit testing agency who monitors all the models. But I don’t know whether that would even work in our case since so many models are poz or like me – neg and don’t mind fucking poz guys.

Personally, I think the important thing is that the guys in bareback porn do so with informed consent. That they understand the risks and consequences. If they do, then it’s all OK in my mind… The question is how do you know some Eastern European guy who doesn’t speak your language had decent sex ed in high school? The concept of informed consent is great. The implementation is a bitch…

UPDATE

I was thinking about this a little more… Canada has about 10% of our population, so let’s guess that 19,000 people in the US died of AIDS. Let’s also guess that 75% of them were gay (I think that’s actually a higher number than what’s true), so that would mean about 14,000 gay guys died of AIDS last year. Now, if we’re 5% of the population (10% of the men), then that means if the entire US were made up of gay men then 280,000 of us would have died of AIDS. That 280,000 number is comparable to the 418,000 that died of smoking.

Those are really rough numbers, but the bottom line is that it appears smoking kills more gay men than HIV/AIDS. Think about that for a moment. Smoking is a bigger problem for our community than HIV. I wish someone could get hard data to prove that, but with high rates of smoking in the gay community, I’m almost certain it’s a true statement.

I was going to put this on the porn blog, but this is more funny than erotic, so I figured I’d put it here on the main blog…

A new, mostly bareback, site came out last month – TheCrossDressers.com. It’s the guys from what I call “The Euro Group” in the links in the sidebar, only this time some of them dress up in women’s clothes to get fucked.

Thing is, some of the guys are just fucking scary in drag… I mean look at these pics… Would you have sex with these guys dressed like that? Or the better question might be could you even get a hardon looking at them like that? I’m pretty sure I couldn’t…

Still, the pics are pretty funny…

If you’re NOT like me and this shit turns you on… Then by all means, check out TheCrossDressers.com. Personally, I’ll be taking a pass…

[To be fair, not all their cross dressers are this scary…]

Woke up this morning. Body clock went off before I really had had a proper sleep. There were tons of messages waiting for me, but I finally cleared all of them… A few guys wanted to come over, but just about all of them were Chicago natives and parking around here would be a nightmare right that time of day and I didn’t feel like traveling.

There was one guy who was visiting a buddy in the hotel next door who wanted to come over. I gave him my room number and told him to confirm. 20 minutes later I hear a knock on the door…

I go over to the door, look through the peephole and see a guy (not house keeping), I open the door and there’s Jarod Steel (he’s the twink porn star who used to work for Falcon, then went bareback and has done stuff for S/X and Dick Wadd Fetish among others). I had given him my room number yesterday and he said he’s be over in 30 minutes. Long 30 minutes, but whatever…

I had just gotten out of the shower and was in nothing but my towel, which I find ironic since Jarod Steel is hot and if he’s OK with me in my towel then all the guys at the bathhouses who didn’t think twice about me… Well, whatever…

So he comes in, apologizes for not telling me he’s coming over, but I didn’t care – I was looking to fuck anyway…

And by the way – Jarod Steel is fucking cute. Taller than me (which I wasn’t expecting), but very very cute… He wasn’t dressed in leather – just running shorts, t-shirt, and hoodie. He wanted to take a shower, so he jumped in the shower to clean off…

After he got out we got to talking. He had been at Steamworks during the time I was there, but somehow I hadn’t seen him. He said he waited 4 hours for a room which makes me wonder how the guy I fucked yesterday got a room so quickly.

He then gets on his knees and starts sucking my dick. I tell him I have a dresser full of toys, but he says the only toy he wants is the one between my legs.

I then tell him I want to rim him and get him on the bed face down. I dive in and he’s got this great musuclar bubble butt which he flexes a bit. It makes his butt seem really hot, but does make it a bit difficult to get in there and properly rim him. He loves getting rimmed – and I do it for a while until my dick is totally hard and then kept rimming him some more (nice hole…)

When I’m finally done rimming him he says it’s been a long time since someone’s eaten his ass as well as that, which to me is a little sad – he should have his ass eaten all the time…

So then I fuck him with his legs in the air… Then he wants to ride me, so we do that for a while. Felt really good – there was a certain way he rode my dick that massaged the top of my dickhead just right… Then we swapped up again (forget the position). Then when I put him on his belly I rimmed him again. Then fucked him some more, then rimmed him some more… etc.

While I got pretty close to cumming when I had him on his belly, the orgasm just didn’t cum. He was hungry to get fucked and rimmed though… The kid’s insatiable…

So while I’m really disappointed he didn’t get my load, it was a fun fuck.

This afternoon he’s shooting a video for Dick Wadd. We talked a bit about his “job” – that he used to do 2 or 3 shoots a month a couple years ago, but now he’s only done two so far this year and one was a tickle film which he wasn’t really into (he just wants to get fucked and seeded). We also talked about where he lived, what’s he’s studying in college, and then he asked questions about what I did. I told him about my regular job and then told him about the blog…

And for the record… While I’ve heard people say he’s messy and has a drug problem, I didn’t see any of that. The light from the window was bothering his eyes, so he might have done something last night when he was at Steamworks, but all in all he seemed well put together and just a nice, normal guy…

My boyfriend and I have decided we want to try our hand at a producing amateur porn. Basically it’s something fun to do on the weekend…

So, if you’re in NYC and interested in doing porn, shoot me an e-mail at rawtop@yahoo.com. You do not have to show your face to participate, and we are paying (though not a huge amount)…

We’re looking for guys of all types, but if your type is not all that marketable, then you need to be good for your type. So, an average twink is fine, but an average 50 year old with a gut probably isn’t OK. If your older or heavier you should still be hot – at least to a portion of the guys out there…

We’re especially interested in finding real tops. So we’re being a lot less picky when it comes to tops than when it comes to bottoms… And if you’re willing to “take all loads” or get into bondage or S/M that helps a lot too…

If you’re a neg bottom and only want to get fucked by neg guys – you need to provide your own tops. If you’re a neg top you need to be OK with fucking poz bottoms (or provide your own bottom). We’re not taking any responsibility for making sure guys are HIV-.

The way it will work is that you’ll send me pics of yourself, a description of what you’re willing to do, how much you’re looking to get paid, whether you have a fuck buddy who will join you (makes it a lot more likely that it will happen), etc. For most bottoms and some tops we’ll then set up a “screen test” where you come in and do a solo shoot for a minimal amount of money. After we know what you look like on film, then we’ll set up something more serious.

So, if you’re interested, send me an e-mail at rawtop@yahoo.com and include:

• Good pictures of yourself
• Your stats
• What you’re willing to do
• What you’re not willing to do
• How much you’re looking to get paid
• Whether you have any buddies who’d be willing to join you

I’ll then get back to you and set things up…