Question: What is the obsession with getting fucked raw? I understand wanting to fuck raw, though I never do that with guys, but I don't understand why the risk is worth it. I have friends who are in their late 20's and are positive from Barebacking. They missed the AIDS Boom of the 80's. Shouldn't we all have learned by now? I do not mean to lecture. I am just really curious about what the desire is all about.

Answer: If it doesn't appeal to you, then don't worry about it. But at the same time try to not be so judgmental.

Ever watch someone on TV ski down the face of a mountain after jumping out of a helicopter? Ever drive fast on the highway (or for that matter travel in a car on a highway)? Ever run across a street against the light when there's oncoming traffic and you might trip and fall?

The point is that we all take risks every day – some of which could kill or disable us. We take some of the risks for no other reason than to enjoy ourselves in the moment. It's no different with sex.

The difference with sex is that we're biologically programmed to want to inseminate and be inseminated. If that weren't the case we wouldn't be the dominant species on the planet.

So stop and think for a moment why it is that you're asking the question about this one particular risky activity when you probably don't think twice about extreme sports, or fatalities on highways, or people who run in front of oncoming traffic…