One side of bareback sex are the kids who learn to love cum in their ass so much that they choose to become poz. As kids have gay sex earlier and earlier and as HIV is seen as less of a problem, this is the case with an increasing number of kids (who knows how many). I’d guess most young guys who become poz didn’t exactly look for it as much as they stop thinking about it and it “just happens”, but a select few actually seek it out.

It’s one thing for an older guy who knows what he’s doing to choose to become poz, but I wonder sometimes about kids – whether they really know what they’re doing… Nevertheless, it’s their life. I just hope they’re happy with their decision 10 or 20 years from now.

Still, some of the young bug chasers are incredibly hot. This post is a run down of a few I’ve come across online. In some cases the links have stopped working, and who knows whether it was fantasy or real for them, or if they’re still in the same headspace, but here they are…

There’s this 21 y.o. in the UK who posted a message saying he was looking for a conversion party (the link doesn’t work any more)…

‘Mo_Boy69‘ (19, 6’, 160, Missouri) posted a message on a Google Group saying he was looking for poz tops…

Then there’s ‘BreedMyHole18‘ on bareback.com (19 y.o., 5’6″, 130) who says

I’ve known for years the only way to have sex is to bareback. Taken a lot of loads and always craving more.

His profile says he’s neg but will play with poz or neg – doesn’t come right out and say he’s looking to get pozzed, but he knows what he’s doing, so pretty close to a bug chaser…

And lastly, he’s not quite as young as the other ones (21), but there’s ‘crfish20‘ on bareback.com who lists himself as negative, but says he’s looking for guys who “can be positive”.

Work has been intense lately – mostly in a good way – which means I haven’t had as much free time on my hands. When I do have free time I just want to flop and take it easy. Yeah, it’d be nice to have some bottom being attentive to me, getting me going and then taking my load. But it’s just too much work to find someone. I’ve even blown off a few of you who read this blog who’ve been in town… Sorry about that.

The closest thing I’ve had to sex for weeks and weeks was a little (really quick) suck action with an old friend of my bf. Guy had a nice cock on him, but the word is he’s mostly top and doesn’t fuck raw… Too bad. Still, I sorta wish I could find a bottom to spend the weekend at his place in the country getting fucked raw by me and my bf and however my bf’s friend wants to fuck. (The bottom could always dump the load from the condom up his ass… Just ’cause it’s ‘safe’ for the top doesn’t mean the bottom can’t get the load in his ass…)

So tonight we’re going out to a movie and then to the Eagle with the friend of a friend I’ve mentioned before. Maybe something will happen – who knows…

Tonight my bf and I watched Thank You For Smoking. I’d recommend everyone see it (especially people reading this blog). It’s basically a satirical look at how someone could be a tobacco lobbyist and sleep well at night.

If you’re wondering why it’s relevant to this blog, think about the parallels between smoking and bareback sex while watching the following clip…

The point is people choose to do things that are ‘bad’ for them ’cause they enjoy them. It’s all about thinking for yourself and making your own choices…

Yeah, I know… My sex life has been pretty sparse lately. I’ve seen ‘friend of a friend‘ a few times lately, but just for normal stuff like going to the movies and hanging out and having a drink – it hasn’t gotten sexual.

Part of the reason why it hasn’t gotten sexual is ’cause my dick felt a little itchy and I’ve been meaning to go have it checked out (it’s been 6 months since my last test). But it was itchy right around my PA – so it’s just as likely that that’s what’s acting up ’cause it’s been getting worked over as I J/O…

But anyway, I digress… So yesterday afternoon I was tired but horny. I figured I’d try to find a hole to drop a load in on my way to meet my bf and a friend for drinks, so I posted an ad on Craigslist. You’d think it wouldn’t be hard to find a bareback bottom in midtown or Chelsea, but all I was getting was people on the Upper West Side and even one in the Bronx.

So I had another idea… I thought I’d stop by an ABS and see what the gloryhole action was like. So I got onto squirt.org and jotted down a few to try.

I should start by saying ‘back in the day’ I never really liked ABSs… They always seemed like a huge waste of money. I’m not big on blow jobs – they’re just foreplay to me, and bathhouses always seemed like a better bang for the buck (pun intended). Only once did I ever have a bottom back onto my dick in an ABS, but I’d get to bareback multiple guys when I went to a bathhouse…

Yesterday didn’t change my mind any… Not only did I get caught in a downpour with no umbrella on my way to the bookstore, but when I got there the sign said $1 for 3 minutes. $20/hr? Damn – bathhouses are a lot better than that… Bottom line I wasn’t going to pay $1 for 3 minutes of maybe getting my dick sucked, so I walked out…

I then met up with my bf and had a drink at Gym Sportsbar – I like that place a lot. In a day when all the bars charge an arm and a leg for crappy drinks, Gym has good drinks at good prices. And they have a good crowd – a little bit of everything, actually. I just wish bars in NYC had backrooms…

Turns out for the longest time we were standing next to the guy I thought was the hottest guy in there… He reminded me of a muscley bartender / go-go dancer I dated ages ago… Hot, hot body, and sweet guy, but also not the brightest bulb in the pack… And there was a latin bottom who reminded me of my Brazilian fb, who kept looking at me, but I was too tired to interrupt him and his friend and start talking to him…

So yes, one of these days I actually need to fuck someone and spread some of my seed… But life’s busy in a good way, so I’m not complaining…

I had an e-mail from a reader the other day…

My name is Jack. I am an avid reader of your blog and I wanted to ask you a question. I am an HIV negative bottom and I crave raw dick and cum in my ass. But, to date, I haven’t taken any raw dick, except from guys I have dated regularly and trusted. I want to branch out and try the occasional raw hookup, but I don’t know how to approach it. Obviously, this is a hard choice to make.

I am considering hiring an escort I know who does bareback occasionally. He claims he is neg and DDF, but I have no way of knowing for sure. He only barebacks for double fee, but I really want to have his cum in my ass.

Based on your estimates, what do you think my risk factor is?

Let’s just say I’m glad I’m not a bottom… It’s not easy making decisions like the one Jack’s making…

There’s a lot he didn’t say in his e-mail… How old is he? Though the fact that he’s thinking of hiring a hooker makes me think he’s not a twink. What are his priorities in life? How comfortable is he with risk in other areas of his life? Someone who drives like a maniac, goes skydiving, or backpacking through war zones is probably more comfortable with barebacking than an accountant who dreams of having the perfect heterosexual-style wedding and settling down in the country with his partner, two dogs and a kid…

I guess what it boils down to is that I think some guys should use condoms since it’s consistent with how they live the rest of their lives, while I think other guys should just give up and get into the mindset that they will become poz… The question is what should those of us who aren’t at one of those two extremes do?

For starters, make your own decisions and don’t second guess yourself after the fact. If you really need cum in your ass and in the moment you’re OK with doing that with a particular guy – don’t beat yourself up after the fact even if you became poz as a result. Bad things happen to people who think negatively… Don’t go there.

Or put another way, realistically think about your limits ahead of time, live by them, and if you don’t wind up living by them re-examine them since you may not have been realistic about things when you were just being theoretical. That’s not to say you shouldn’t learn from your experiences and do things differently in the future (I’m wondering whether the last two hookups were worth it)… Just don’t freak out about things after the fact…

Obviously Jack has thought about things and recognizes his need to get cum in his ass – and not just from whoever he’s dating… If he has that need then it’s good to be realistic about it and deal with it. Suppressing it isn’t a good long term strategy on many levels. So it’s good that Jack acknowledges it and is trying to find ways to scratch his itch…

At the same time he seems really concerned about risk. That’s an understandable step at the point he’s at, but he needs to be realistic about that too in that nothing is guaranteed. All he can do is play the odds and pick tops his gut tells him are neg. But even then he might wind up with poz cum in his ass… He needs to know that might happen and accept it the same way he accepts that when he drives his car on the highway he might get hit by a truck and be maimed for life.

But most importantly, Jack should avoid being consumed by fear. It’s easy for people like him to over think things and get let worry rule their lives. Sex is no different than any other aspect of his life in that to live an interesting life means there’s a certain level of risk. I love NY and find it invigorating to live here. But it’s also tends to be popular with terrorists. I love getting my cum in a guy’s ass, but that can put me at increased risk for HIV. Is there really that much difference between choosing to live in NY and choosing to bareback?

What would be sad (from my perspective) is 10 years from now for Jack to feel like he missed out…

Back in the beginning of January “Bubble Bottom Slut” started a blog about his sex life called “Staying Faithful and Being a Slut” where he tells all about the sex he’s having behind his boyfriend’s back. (He has an interesting definition of ‘faithful’)…

Anyway, since January 10th, he’s gotten fucked 90 times with a condom. In 43 of those encounters the guy came in his ass (in the rubber). It should be mentioned that most of those encounters were in sex clubs where he’d offer his ass to whoever he thought was hot… He also got fucked bareback 9 times by guys he was pretty sure were neg – getting 7 loads of cum in his ass in the process. Plus his boyfriend has fucked him bareback 8 times and shot in his ass 4 times (which explains why he’s looking elsewhere for sex).

If you read his blog he’s been a bit conflicted about barebacking with guys other than his boyfriend. He likes it, but he’s worried about the risk he’s taking. It should be mentioned that if he became poz he might have issues with his career – so becoming poz is a problem for him on many levels…

A lot of his readers are telling him to stay “safe” and always use rubbers. But my contention is that he’s safer when he’s barebacking… Why? For two reasons – 1) He doesn’t know anything about the guys who fuck him with condoms but he does a good job vetting the guys who bareback him – he makes them get tested before they can fuck him raw, and 2) Condoms fail 10% of the time…

In other words, having 90 strangers fuck you with a condom and taking “safe” loads from 42 of them is the equivalent of having backing your ass to a glory hole and having 9 guys fuck you bareback and getting anonymous loads from 4 of them. Mind you, he’s had a lot more fun over the past 5 months than he would have backing his ass up to a glory hole one or two nights (risk vs. reward), but my point is – there’s still some significant risk…

Let’s go into more detail… What I’m about say is based on an article in the January 2002 issue of Journal of Sexually Transmitted Diseases, entitled “Reducing the Risk of Sexual HIV Transmission: Quantifying the Per-Act Risk for HIV on the Basis of Choice of Parnter, Sex Act, and Condom Use”. It was written by researchers from the Division of HIV/AIDS Prevention-Surveillance and Epidemiology at the CDC in Atlanta. I encourage people to read the entire article. The article doesn’t have new findings, but it’s a compilation of what was known at that point…

IMHO, the most important part of the article is the table at the top of the second page. To figure out how much risk you’re taking you take a number from each of the three columns and multiply them together and then compare the results.

Let’s take the two scenarios for Bubble Bottom Slut…

Getting fucked “safely” by strangers has the following risk factors – 43 for gay sex with a person of unknown HIV status, 100 for receptive anal and 1 for using a condom.
Total score: 4,300 (though I’ll discuss the 43 below)…

Getting fucked bareback by someone you’ve vetted pretty well – 1 for gay sex with someone who has had a recent, negative HIV test, 100 for receptive anal, and 20 for not using a condom.
Total score: 2,000

So just looking at those numbers it seems he’s more than twice as safe when he barebacks than he is when he’s taking “safe” loads from strangers in sex clubs.

But it gets worse… If you read the article closely they discuss how they came up with the 43 number – it’s based on an assumption that 10% of the people you’re having sex with are positive. Having sex with a HIV+ person has a risk factor of 430 – 43 is 10% of 430. Bubble Bottom Slut is having anonymous encounters at a gay sex club in San Francisco. Mind you it’s not the rauchiest of sex clubs, but the percentage of poz guys is probably more like 30-40% (and that’s a conservative estimate).

That means his risk is 3-4 times higher than we thought, and instead of being about twice as safe when he barebacks, he’s actually 12 to 17 times safer barebacking than he is having “safe sex”.

But it gets even worse… If you read the article carefully you’ll see that they say the risk factor (20) for not using a condom is based on a 5% failure rate for condoms (1/20 = 5%), but they say you only achieve a 5% failure rate when the condom is used perfectly. The real failure rate is around 10% (some studies say as high as 13%). So that means in reality his risk level needs to be doubled again and he’s actually about 25 times safer getting fucked bareback than he is having safe sex.

If Bubble Bottom Slut tested HIV+ today, based on his activity since January 10th, it’s far more likely that he became positive from the “safe sex” he’s been having than the little bit of barebacking he’s been doing.

Put another way, he could have had his vetted bareback fuck buddies cum in his ass over 1,000 times and not taken the risk he’s taken getting fucked “safely” by the 43 strangers who’ve used rubbers when they shot their wads in his ass…

Even if you’re skeptical of the accuracy of those numbers, the point is that he’s a lot safer getting fucked bareback by negative guys than fucked “safely” by strangers. It’s the reason why the San Francisco Department of Health promotes the concept of serosorting.

The important part in this scenario is for Bubble Bottom Slut to really know and trust his tops… When I say ‘know’ what I mean is that he wants tops who are doing low risk activity (which can include being a bareback top with negative bottoms). My advice to him is to find 100% tops who never bottom…

The reason I say find 100% tops is because those of us who don’t bottom are at much lower risk. Insertive anal has a risk factor of 13 – compared to 100 for receptive anal – so it’s 7.7 times safer.

Frankly, ‘serosorting’ will probably work better for him (as a bottom) than it will for me (as a top) because he’s so careful. I tend to trust what people put in their profiles or say something like “your neg, right?” He actually goes through a lengthy process where he makes them go get an HIV test. He is actually doing serosorting properly – I’m a bit lazy with it.

So, if you’re one of the people encouraging Bubble Bottom Slut to “be safe” and use rubbers, you’re actually telling him to engage in high risk activity. He’s actually a lot safer with his vetted bareback fuck buddies.

The question is whether he’d be as satisfied with a sex life where we was only getting fucked by a few, well vetted guys. He seems to like public sex with strangers. And if he’s going to be engaging in public sex with strangers, then he’s being as safe as he can be by using condoms when he does it.

Bottom line, he should stop worrying about the little bit of bareback sex he’s having – it’s low risk. If he wants to reduce his risk, he should start by cutting down on all the strangers who are fucking him with condoms…