Dick Damonson Found Dead In His Apartment
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14 October 2012 | 15 Comments
A friend told me yesterday that Dick Damonson was found dead in his apartment. Dick had appeared in a number of Treasure Island Videos – 20 Hole Weekend, Best of Brad McGuire, and Fuck Holes 2. (That’s him getting fucked in the picture to the left. Does anyone have a better picture of him?)
He lived up in Washington Heights close to where I used to live. I fucked him a couple times back in 2009, but then he got a little weird on me – he didn’t like that I mentioned his apartment was messy in my write up. I didn’t think that was something someone would have a problem with (though looking at the posts I did remove that from my write up when he complained). I mean I thought I was being pretty nice by leaving out the fact that he had me stop once or twice so he could smoke up with his little glass pipe.
The friend who told me about his death had been pretty close to him. Apparently Dick had pretty big issues with crystal meth (which I saw in action) – it changed him and made him paranoid. There were cameras hidden all over his apartment, etc… His going off on me because I mentioned his apartment was messy sorta fits the profile.
Dick had made it pretty clear he was seriously upset with me, so I was amused when he kept hitting up another profile I have online – he didn’t realize it was me. I mean I liked him a lot and clearly on a certain level he was into me – it’s just I didn’t want to deal with all his PNP baggage.
If you’re one of those types who thinks that crystal meth only affects losers – Dick Damonson wasn’t a loser. He was a sweet, adorable guy who just couldn’t control his drug use. But once the physical damage was done it was sorta just a matter of time. It’s always incredibly sad to watch someone you know is on a seriously self-destructive path…
People… Meth kills – literally. There are plenty of other drugs out there that are a lot less destructive. If you have to do drugs, please pick something other than meth. 20 years from now when you’re still living a productive life, you’ll be glad you stayed away from it.
Personally I’m getting rather concerned with the effect meth is having on the bareback community. If you are as well and you have graphic design / advertising skills – contact me – rawtop@breedingzone.com.
UPDATE:
My friend who was Dick’s close friend told me a few days ago that the cause of death was meningitis. Thanks to meth, Dick had grown so paranoid he rarely left his apartment. Unfortunately that meant he didn’t go to the doctor when his life was literally in danger. His death certificate will say he died of meningitis, but the real cause was meth addiction – since his meningitis probably could have been dealt with if he had sought medical care.
It’s sad to hear about Dick Damonson. I live on a rather close-knit block – we pretty much know each other’s strengths and weaknesses, so one neighbor and his husband have been the focus of some attention as the guys are increasingly lost to meth use. Of course the guys deny as much, but all indications are there. I shouldn’t be surprised if a funeral is in the immediate future. Very sad.
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This is awful but sadly that is where crystal leads you. The message is not out there that crystal is DANGEROUS. Recreational use of it WILL lead to regular use. Unlike many other drugs, it only takes a few meth experience to lead to addiction. I did it once, 10yrs ago when I was 20, and I will be honest in saying the experience was GREAT. Had the best sex I ever had and this this day no other sex has been as great as that experience. That being said, I never ever did it again b/c I hated the feeling I was experiencing the next day. I also never did it again b/c I experienced 3 friends who went through the addiction. One friend was a successful financial broker and last I heard, he lost his apartment and his boyfriend and moved to SF. A mutual friend put him up in hotel after he got kicked out his own place and he managed to trash the hotel room. We never heard work from him again, that was 5 yrs ago. Meth is no joke. Although the drug use is not as bad in gay community as it was few yrs ago but the useage still remains.
I think a large portion of the bareback community exists because of meth. Im not saying you have to be high to want to bb..but lets face it, a lot of guys wouldn’t be doing it if they weren’t high.
My condolences go out to the family of this man, as this is very tragic.
I can relate, a very close friend of mine, a man who was about as close to a lover that I’ve ever had, committed suicide back in ’05, I learned of it probably a couple of months after it had happened, (I thought he was out of state) and I believe meth use may have been a contributing factor. I’m essentially over it, but it was difficult for me to come to terms with it.
I came across the news of DD’s death by accident just last night. I was in his apartment, and it was beyond messy — it was out of control. As I’m afraid D was. I liked him and also had sex with him a few times — I wish I’d been a better top for him, because he definitely wanted to be fucked.
He had been quite ill for about a year and a half — I never knew with what. I now feel stupid and sad for not having recognized how ill he was. I agree with several of you guys that meth was involved, though I doubt it was the direct cause of his death (but what do I know?). Ironically, the drug no longer had much effect on him, though he smoked constantly. He used it simply to maintain.
He was fascinated with, of all things, Tudor history; he was forever renovating his fuckedup apartment; he could be charming but also cold. I’m trying to remember things he told me of his life. The Marine thing he never mentioned; could be true or not. He was a bartender in a gay bar early in his life. He loved his father, and claimed his father knew he was gay and had no problem with it. He did have a paranoid streak and would talk about various ex-es as if they were indeed trying still to hurt him. (Maybe they were.) He said his best TIM fuck came not from any of the big stars such as Brad McGuire, but Fyerfli; he said Fyerfli’s dick was huge. He didn’t much like sex for the last 3-4 years, which is when I knew him. He had no interest in barebacking as a fetish despite his Treasure Island history. He could be very dismissive of the whole gay scene.
I would be interested in hearing other friends of DD’s talk about him. I was never close to him — maybe no one was — but it makes me so sad to think this hot, intelligent guy is now simply gone.
I only met this guy once or twice, back in July or August of last year. I was living in Washington Heights too, and I remember thinking that he was a very mysterious, handsome guy and I tried fairly hard to convince him to meet up with me. His apartment was definitely being renovated, but it wasn’t dirty so much as cluttered.
He seemed quite distant mentally, but we had great sex. The kind where you pass out for a few hours after you cum. I am sort of short too, so we were very compatible size-wise.
I remember thinking he was just your standard distant tweaker, nothing out of the ordinary. It’s a shame to think that he’s gone.
I want to clarify sone things about my baby brother that you have been posting. His death was TRAGIC!!!!! He did not die of an OVERDOSE or MENEGITIS as one of you claim his death certificate would read. He suffered from chronic asthma since he was a baby and prior to his death had suffered from a serious attack. THAT WAS THE CAUSE OF HIS DEATH – an asthma attack. DO NOT make assumptions! I am his older sister and he was an amazing, intelligent, young man. He brought so much love and happiness to our family. Yes our father, mother and entire family knew he was gay and we supported him 100%. As far as your ignorant comments regarding his apartment, who the hell cares if it was cluttered— Are you kidding me? MY brother will forever be missed by us so please if you have nothing positive to say please do not say anything at all!!! My heart is forever empty and broken without him!!!!!!!!!!
I really could care less if you believe your source regarding meningitis. If he was a true friend I would know this person. His true friends attended his service and would never give false information regarding my brothers passing. My family and I are mourning the death of my brother and you should have a little compassion for him and us as well. His name should not be slandered especially when he is not here to defend himself. He should be allowed to rest in peace. Bottom line is my brother was a beautiful and amazing person. Whether you believe what his cause of death was really doesnt matter all I ask is that you rspect his privacy and my families. If you want a reliable source I am the only reliable source not someone who claims to have been his friend.
@DJ508 – If you ARE his sister, sorry for your loss. He was nice but messed up.
But don’t leave DRUGS out of your Cause of Death unless you can provide a Death Certificate,
cause I personally did PLENTY of drugs with DD. Luckily for me, I got sober just weeks after news of his passing so its not a total loss.
I would not normally participate in this kind of a discussion, but it pains me so much to read messages from Damion’s sister ( yes .. it is absolutely his sister) and to see the truly insensitive and cruel responses to her understandable request. Please consider the feelings of a family who have lost someone they love. Might I suggest that there are two things going on here. One is a very admirable and , I am sure, well intentioned desire to get the message out that this drug is a very bad and dangerous thing to use. Unfortunately, “Dick Damonson” has been chosen as an example of the very real dangers of this drug and , in the process, all consideration for him as a son, a brother , a friend are off the table. He becomes nothing more than a horrible example of the effects of this substance and an object of scorn. Very private details about his life are there for all to read. Of course, there is no way to know if all of this information is correct.
What I can tell you is absolutely correct is that his sister wrote those posts. She is grieving the loss of her brother and remembers him as an entire person, as does the rest of his family and people who loved him and cared about him. His loss at such a young age is tragic. If she were sitting across from you and talking to you… would you be speaking to his grieving sister in this way? Isn’t there some way to get this message out there without dragging his name through the mud? Addiction is a sickness … isn’t it possible to show a little compassion for the person even if you condemn the substance abuse? I think there are very few of us who would want the worst things we ever did in our life to become the discussion in a public forum as a kind of cyber-epitaph. Nobody is wrong here, but there is something to be said for showing some sensitivity for a sister and a family who are grieving the loss of someone they loved very deeply.
@blogsurfer – First, as I mentioned I don’t know that that actually is his sister. Second, his real name hasn’t been mentioned in the blog post. And if I were sitting across from his sister I’d first want to know how involved she was in his life. There is family and there are relatives. I don’t know which she is.
So, for now, to me, the benefits of this post continue to outweigh the problems.