If you’re not from NYC you may not have heard of him, but Rev. Al Sharpton is a bit of a fixture around here – he’s even run for mayor (and I voted for him). The man says things that are so true and says them with a frankness that’s wonderfully refreshing. Here’s the latest from him…

It amazes me when I looked at California and saw churches that had nothing to say about police brutality, nothing to say when a young black boy was shot while he was wearing police handcuffs, nothing to say when the they overturned affirmative action, nothing to say when people were being delegated into poverty, yet they were organizing and mobilizing to stop consenting adults from choosing their life partners. There is something immoral and sick about using all of that power to not end brutality and poverty, but to break into people’s bedrooms and claim that God sent you.

Can we clone him? Maybe make a few white versions of him and put them in places like Kansas so his message reaches a broader audience?

Needless to say guys like him are another reason why I love New York. Find me another place where a prominent black minister is saying things like that… And then there’s our blind, black governor who is trying his hardest to get us gay marriage, and the new (black) state senate majority leader who decided he’d rather lose his position than compromise his principles on things like his support for gay marriage (3 anti-gay Democratic senators were threatening to caucus with the Republicans if they didn’t get a vote on gay marriage taken off the table – in the end they lost and he won but the point is he wouldn’t use our civil rights as a bargaining chip for him to get a great deal or power)…

I really can’t imagine living anywhere but NYC…

A lot happened on this site in the past year… You guys have been great and I just wanted to say thanks.

For starters, traffic has gone up significantly…

Comparing December 2007 to December 2008…

Visits are up 232%
Unique visitors are up 290%
Search engine traffic is up 574%

Revenue is another thing that’s gone up (I make money when you click on a link and buy something like a porn site membership). A year ago I was making what I referred to as “jack off money” which amounted to just a little bit each month (by NYC standards). Then it climbed a bit and covered the cost of my car, then it was more… Now I’m seeing porn as a decent way to make money and hope that one day I could live off it completely. If I meet my rather aggressive goals that could happen in a year or so. For now I still earn considerably more off my mainstream corporate work.

And just for the record, I’ve learned a lot over the last year or two and there’s definitely a right way to approach this business and a wrong way. If any of you want to get serious about it, talk to me…

I know I’ve been talking about it for a while now, but the big thing I want to accomplish in the next few months is to launch a forum where you guys can start your own topics and discuss things among each other. And I hope to get to the point where I can pump out more and more porn blog posts. I’ve gotten better with it, but things still tend to pile up and then all get done on the weekend. I want to make that more consistent.

Anyway, I just wanted to say thanks for coming to the site!

There’s an affiliate program out there, Condom Cash, that I really didn’t pay much attention to. I mean, just based on the name you wouldn’t think it would be appropriate for me, right? Well, it turns out if you thought that (like I did), you’d be wrong…

Condom Cash has not one but two bareback sites – RetroMale.com and GayRetroPorn.com. They’ve conveniently redefined bareback to not include what’s been euphemistically called “pre-condom” – you know, the bareback stuff from the 80s.

Think about it for a minute – if you didn’t use a condom in the 80s it could actually kill you in a matter of a few short years. Compare that to now, where if you bareback, and start treatment within a reasonable amount of time after infection, it may not kill you at all. So the people who think “barebacking” (their definition) is evil (or at least horribly, horribly wrong), are fine with the far deadlier version of barebacking which they’ve called by another name – “pre-condom”.

I just find the whole situation pretty funny…

Here’s the end of year wrap-up for 2008…

I had 89 hookups involving anal sex. In those 89 hookups I gave the bottom my load 67 times. In terms of hookups that’s a good improvement over the 42 total hookups in 2007 and the 37 total hookups in 2006. In terms of total loads that’s a huge improvement from 2007 when I gave 24 loads and 2006 when I gave 21 loads. I exceeded my maximum goal that I set at the beginning of the year for of 52 loads.

Some of my “misses” were at places like bathhouses where I’d fuck 3 or 4 guys but only the last one got my load. All in all that batting average was a lot better than previous years. My miss rate was 25% this year, but 43% in 2006 and 2007, so much better thanks to the pills I took this year.

In terms of variety and finding new ass. I fucked 67 guys I hadn’t fucked before (odd that that’s the same number as the number of loads I gave). That’s up from 23 in 2007 and 26 in 2006 – so again a nice increase.

One other goal I had for the year was to get three loads in guys less than half my age. That’s the one goal I failed on. I did get one load in a guy half my age, and fucked another young guy raw but didn’t give him my load. So that’s one goal I gotta continue to work on this year. Otherwise, not sure I’m really going to set firm goals this year other than to keep things up as best I can.

So how did you guys do getting and giving loads this year? What are your goals for 2009? If you still use condoms sometimes maybe your goal should be to stop using them completely. If you’ve been a picky bottom in the past maybe you should have the goal of taking all dick and all loads no questions asked. If you’ve never been gangbanged, maybe this is the year. Or maybe this is the year you start consciously bug chasing or gift giving (though on the latter one I’m not advocating stealth breeding). If you’re already pretty uninhibited maybe you should have the goal of going on sexual holidays where you dedicate a weekend or a week to seeing how much cum you can get in your ass. Or maybe this is the year you videotape some of your hookups and put them on XTube… The point is, wherever you’re at, take it to the next level…

If you’ve been reading this for a while you know I’m neg, but pretty “poz friendly”, even bug chaser friendly. At least on a fantasy level I think it would be sorta hot to be a poz top. The sex I get into is a lot about power/control and risk/vulnerability – it’s just natural that the whole HIV/poz thing accentuates those factors, so I totally get how HIV gets eroticized.

I’ve even gone as far as wondering if I wanted to bottom for a high viral load top to hurry things along. The high viral load guy I fucked this past month offered to breed me and given that I tend to bleed when I get fucked (’cause there’s a tear down there that’s never quite healed properly), had I gone for it, it probably would have done the trick.

But I didn’t go for it, though I was really ambivalent. Curiously I had the apartment to myself some nights and getting bred on those days would have had a certain poetic/ironic quality to it. World AIDS Day was one day, and on the “gift giving” side of things – my birthday was another day I had the place to myself, and then there was a day early in Christmas week.

In the end it came down to the fact that while I don’t mind taking risk having the sex that I normally have being a top, I didn’t really want to do more than that. The phrase that kept going through my head was “life has enough hassles I don’t need to go looking for another one”.

Now, had I been a bottom I think the decision would have been completely different. In that case my normal sex life would most certainly have resulted in becoming poz, so I think I would have embraced the whole poz thing and bug chased. There’s something to having a decent idea of who pozzed you, or knowing when it happened (say a gangbang), or having a video o it. And I probably would have done the same if I were versatile.

But I’m a top and it’s not certain that I’ll become poz, so I’m going to just keep doing what I’m doing. If it happens, I’m fine with it. If it doesn’t, I’m fine with that too…

I guess my whole point in this post is to say I know where a lot of you are coming from. I understand those of you who are bug chasers, and I understand those of you who choose not to bug chase but still fantasize about it. To me it all seems pretty normal.

I’m in Toronto for Christmas. I suggested to my bf that we go to a bathhouse (or “the tubs” as Canadians call them). I’d heard of a few guys going to Steamworks, so suggested we go there. He checked it out online and was good with it.

We had plans to have drinks with a couple guys who know I do porn, so we had just under 2 hours to spend at Steamworks. I wasn’t sure how I was going to perform so I took a pill just before getting there. Don’t usually take a full pill and was a little worried about it.

We get there, decent place and a fair number of people for the middle of the afternoon (which is always good). They’ve got a couple of dark mazes, a sling room, whirlpools, and dry and wet saunas – and a gym – so pretty much everything…

The first guy I hooked up with was in the sling room. He started feeling me up and he seemed to have a nice body (it was dark), but he wasn’t getting on his knees to blow me, so I left and he wound up following me. He was Asian and we wound up back at my room. There was some sucking and whatnot, but I really wanted to fuck. He finally put his ass up and I tried to push in, but I didn’t have any lube, and was sorta parched and couldn’t come up with enough spit. He wasn’t making it easy for me and seemed a bit reluctant. Then I saw him looking on the shelf by the bed for some condoms and when he didn’t find any he finally figured out I intended to bareback him and he ended things and left.

Next up was a black guy who came into my room while I was jacking my dick. He seemed to expect me to worship his “big black dick”, but I don’t do dick worship. When he said “tell me you love my big black dick” and I said nothing it was sorta clear things weren’t going to work. When I played with his ass he was into it. He let me rim him, but didn’t seem interested in getting fucked. He was into me and didn’t seem to be getting the fact that I wasn’t into him, so I said I wanted to take a break and walk around.

Next I saw this Latin (Mexican?) guy in one of the mazes, but I wasn’t all that hard so he moved on. Then I went into the dry sauna and there was this guy in there who was hungry to get fucked. Problem was there was a bit of a crowd and he jumped on someone else’s dick before I got a chance. But he wasn’t exactly a sub bottom ’cause as soon as he came it was over. The guy who was fucking him didn’t get to cum. But it was sorta funny that as he left he said “Happy Boxing Day guys!”

That got me boned so I went back to my room and jacked my dick. The Mexican guy I saw earlier came in and we played a bit, but once again he wasn’t really a bottom and things sorta fizzled.

I was starting to get frustrated ’cause I just wanted to fuck. I headed back to the dry sauna but saw my bf going in, so I figured I’d give him some space. This other guy was about to go in and he saw me and when I didn’t go in he came out and asked if I wanted to go to his room. This guy was a real bottom (finally), though a bit on the assertive side. I’m guessing he was Italian (he had a bit of an accent). He was probably upper 30s, and had a thick, but solid build.

Needless to say, after a short blowjob I had my raw dick up his ass. He was trying to direct things a bit too much but I still got my way more often than not. The weirdest part was that he was so into me he told me he loved me a couple of times. We fucked for a while, but as I mentioned I was a bit parched and couldn’t cum. It might have also been how non-submissive he was – not sure. But at least I got a good fuck in.

I had to run ’cause it was close to 5. As I went back to my room I saw a really hot young guy laying on his belly in a black jockstrap. Damn! While I might have gotten rejected if I had tried, I really wanted to fuck him, but I didn’t have time. The place seemed to be picking up and it was too bad I had to leave.

My bf didn’t have such a great time. One guy he was really into completely ignored him and then the cute guy went after a 65 year old guy. My bf knows the age ’cause he talked to the 65 year old guy later. It’s too bad my bf didn’t have fun ’cause it means when I travel with him he’s not going to want to go to the baths. Like I’d sorta like to go back today, but don’t think it’s going to happen.

Then we went and had drinks. Got to meet the guy behind Gay Porn Pig (who also does some other sites) as well as a reader of this blog who’s a flight attendant and has a couple of non-sexual blogs. The Gay Porn Pig guy gave me some great pointers about what I should do in the next year. The other guy was sorta funny – he reads this blog way too closely. There were little references I had dropped that he remembered with a bit too much clarity.

The Gay Porn Pig guy had to go so then we hung out with the other guy. We changed bars and went to the Black Eagle and managed to get kicked out of the backroom because we were talking too much and not having sex. That was sorta funny and a bit ironic. At one point my bf and the guy wanted to go for a cigarette and I wanted to stick around in the backroom (was hoping for a blowjob), but my bf wanted me to go with them. Guess I shouldn’t have gone. Having someone suck my dick would have changed the dynamics and made things more sexual. Oh well.

So all in all a good day yesterday, though I wish I had been able to give someone my load.