Went rummaging around the chest that has all my sex toys the other night (looking for a video tape I made of a pump-and-dump I did a few years ago)… Gotta sling in there that’s gotten very little use. A rod for sounding (sticking a metal rod up your dick into your bladder – something I tried once or twice before realizing it wasn’t for me). Lots of restraints, cock rings, hoods, CBT toys, you name it… And it’s all gotten very little use…

You see I was getting into S/M and bondage before I met my boyfriend 10 years ago (we just had our 10 year anniversary this past Sunday), but he’s a lot more vanilla than I am. So for him I pretty much gave up everything related to S/M… Let’s just say I still think he’s as special as I did when I first met him and I’m glad I stayed with him even though that meant giving up S/M, but I do wish he were more into it…

And things are different than they were 10 years ago. Back then I couldn’t have sex with other guys, now I can. I guess I got in a rut and got used to quick encounters with anonymous bottoms. I mean, I like that – it’s hot and definitely gets me going, but I need more diversity in my sex life… I need to get back into S/M… S/M is where I learned that sex doesn’t have to be about tenderness or love – it can be about power and control as well…

The other thing I need to have a handle over is how just being busy can interfere with my sex life. I get so wrapped up in every day life it’s easier to just look at some porn and jack off than take the time and risk to fuck someone and possibly have a bad hookup. But my cum belongs in guys asses…

So we’ll see… In addition to having my 10 year anniversary, my 40th birthday is coming up in a couple weeks… It’s time to work a little harder to make my sex life a little more interesting…

The other day I found out that someone I knew really well 10+ years ago is now way up there in a major corporation. Like way way up there… The curious part is the guy’s background…

Without revealing too many details I can say the guy is heavily into S/M. We played back then and his pain threshold was incredible. Let’s just say an ‘intense’ session for this guy is a metal butt plug up his ass, a sounding rod up his dick into his bladder, and then arcing electricity from the rod to the butt plug…

I think he had a thing for me and I could have been his boyfriend if I had wanted it – instead we became good friends. While he wasn’t “my type” he was a really nice guy and being new to S/M I wanted to play with someone who I trusted who had a lot of experience. We had a few sessions together – mummification, flogging, and just plain fucking. Then I met my current boyfriend who wasn’t interested in S/M…

Anyway, my point is that one thing I learned during my time in the S/M community was that being an S/M bottom is very compatible with success in corporate America. I think part of the reason why corporate America doesn’t work for me (I run my own business), is because I’m not submissive. There are certain jobs in corporate America where submissiveness (combined with intelligence) will get you a very long way and make you a lot of money…

The point is that if you’re a submissive bottom, take pride in your submissiveness and use it outside the bedroom to your advantage. If you play your cards right by finding the right top (boss) and treat him right and watch his back, you can do incredibly well.

Last night I was down in Chelsea with some time to kill. So I got on the web (via my cell phone) and saw a listing on Craigslist by a guy who had literally begged me to fuck him previously…

Me: “Where are you located?” (since his ad just said “downtown”)

Him: “im in chelsea teens/7th ave you and your stats”

Me: “39, 6′, 230, 8″, white. we’ve corresponded before-check past emails for my pics. I’m close and can stop by in a little bit if you want…””

Him: “hey dont see an old email from you but im HOT and HORNY you wanna CUM over or send me a DICK pic… do you know what I look like?”

Me: “What’s you address – I’ll be there in a few minutes… and yeah, I know what you look like you sent me a lot of emails trying to get me to fuck you… ;)”

Him (again): “hey im ready where r u CUM and Get it”

Me: “16 & 7 what’s your address?“

Him: “Kewl its 6pm now what time,I will send you my addy”

Me: “Not asking a third time… I WAS looking for NOW. the games are really tiring…”

I give up, sign out of mail and send a text message to a guy who gave me his cell number and told me to call him whenever I was looking to fuck, but he texts back that he’s off to a Project Runway party (which I didn’t really understand until I got home and my boyfriend was watching the first show of the new season – great crop of designers BTW).

So I check my e-mail one more time and he had finally sent me his address… I send a message back saying I’ll be there in a bit.

I arrive and it’s a ‘modest’ apartment (nothing particularly wrong with that- some cumholes live in real dives) . In the pic he had sent me he had really short hair, but now it was really long. We played around a bit, he sucked my cock. I wanted to rim him and he cleaned off the lube he had put on his hole. The whole time he’s trying to talk dirty and a lot of what he’s saying is focused on the fact that he’s black and I’m white. I can definitely get into the whole racial thing, but the way he was going about it wasn’t really doing it for me.

Then I went to fuck him… We’re both standing – he’s bent over a desk. Thing is his legs are longer than mine and my dick comes to a point about 2 inches below his hole. I can get in his hole, but not comfortably and I’m not in the mood to stand on my tip toes to fuck him (been there, done that – no fun…) I ask him to lower his ass, he doesn’t get it. I then push down (pretty hard) on his lower back and he stays right where he is. I move him around to the couch thinking that might be better. No luck. I have him lay on his stomach and he manages to lay in a way that’s awkward for me.

I’m so over the hookup and my dick is almost too soft to fuck. Then he says (still talking dirty) “You like your hard dick in a black hole, don’t you?” I’m thinking – Guy, can’t you notice I’m soft? What’s the talk about my hard dick? It’s not hard!

At that point I give up. I say “it’s not working for me”, pull up my pants, put on my jacket, grab my bag and leave…

For someone who I think (based on his Craigslist postings) gets fucked a lot – he’s a really bad bottom…

Bareback.com has put up a new version – for the what? Third time now? The look is generally better…

There are some glitches and gotchas though… For starters a lot of the pics don’t have thumbnails… Take a look at the “Newest Pics” section…

But most importantly you’ll need to log to fix things like your location and dick size. The location issue is a big problem. The whole point of the site is to find guys to fuck. If people aren’t in the correct town, how will you hookup. And everyone now has a dick size of 5″… You’ll probably want to fix that…

In general though, I can’t say I love the interface. I don’t know that it’s any worse than the old interface (which wasn’t all that great), but it’s not nearly as good as Adam4Adam or Manhunt…

The other weird thing is they seem to be transitioning from bareback.com to ibareback.com… Notice the URL after the first page… I like ibareback.com, but bareback.com has more power ’cause it’s simpler.

The transition is a bit like when Adam4Adam migrated to their new interface – there were issues and they eventually got them resolved. The difference was no one was paying. Bareback.com should give their paying customers a rebate to keep them happy, and get things resolved as quickly as possible.

According to the Boyz web site (PDF), two twinks were infected on a bareback video shoot in the UK recently. Here’s the basic story… An 18 y.o., a 21 y.o., and a 26 y.o. each had HIV tests before a BB video shoot last month. It turns out the 26 year old’s test result turn out to be a false negative – he was actually poz at the time of the filming. They did some special HIV test on the other two that can find your HIV status sooner than the standard test, and they both came back poz. Thing is, the 26 y.o. didn’t cum inside either of the other guys…

There’s something that just doesn’t ring true in the story… On average a bottom has to get fucked by poz tops about 50 times to get infected. For both of the kids to get infected that’s a 1 in 2500 chance. Let’s just say the 26 year old’s viral load was spiked and he was a lot more infectious than your average poz guy, but he didn’t cum in either one of them… Precum just isn’t that lethal. One bottom getting infected I might believe, but not two. If they were sharing a needle, I can see it. But I’m just not buying that both of them could get infected in one shot without getting cum in their ass.

It’s weird though… On the one hand it could be a marketing ploy – I mean an 18 y.o. and a 21 y.o. getting infected in a BB video that’s going to be released would have a certain crowd buying it like hot cakes… But they’re not releasing the name of the studio. Unless details are going to get leaked later, I’m not sure how it could be a marketing ploy.

Does anyone know which BB porn companies do twink videos and shoot in the UK? I know there are some European companies that do twink BB videos, but I thought they were all Eastern European…

Apparently the video is due out before Christmas – talk about “gift giving”…

UPDATE: The video in question is “British Bareback Vacation” – it’s been released.

Just want to encourage everyone reading this to check out BarebackSurvey.com. There’s a survey for guys who bareback and separate survey for bug chasers. It just takes a few minutes to complete and the results will be interesting to watch…