Saw this one on LifeLube’s blog…

It’s from sexual commentator Alexyss K Tylor. She was first brought to my attention by a friend who sent me a link to her wonderful video discussion entitled “Dick will make you slap somebody”. Her frank and honest discussion of sexual issues is truly unique…

In this clip she discusses an important issue for gay men – washing up “down there” or as she so eloquently puts it “WASH YO NUTZ!”

I know I try to wash up down there before hooking up… It’s especially important for guys who are a bit on the heavy side since they tend to sweat more… I remember back when I was an escort I went home with a john who was “a big guy” and he was completely rank down there… I tried to avoid the area, but he kept trying to push my head down to give him a blow job. Finally I just had to tell him I couldn’t. He actually got upset with me for not telling him right away. My view was that he was paying for a pleasant experience and I didn’t want to bring it up unless I had to. Needless to say it was one of the worst experiences escorting made worse by the long subway ride home from Brooklyn in a subway car that had a gang of rowdy teenagers…

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I was going to hookup with the cub I fucked last week – he had contacted me and it was clear he was hungry for more cum. I asked him if he had gotten any other loads since I fucked him and he said he doesn’t usually get fucked bareback, but he thought it was really hot and wanted a repeat. I could tell where his mind was at. He’s the worried neg bottom who thinks barebacking is hot, but usually doesn’t act on his feelings. Anyway, I wanted to give him another load to get him a little more comfortable with the idea of letting guys breed him – so maybe he’d get hungry enough that he’d start having other guys give him loads…

But when I logged into Manhunt to see if he was online this really hot, hairy, muscular Latino e-mails me and says he wants my cum in his ass. I look at his profile – he lists himself as a versatile top and I can see why – his dick looks like it’s practically beer can thick… He didn’t have a face pic, but he e-mailed me his ass pic… It was pretty much perfect as well. He was way downtown, but I really wanted to fuck him. So I told him I needed to take care of few things and then I’d drive down.

I take care of what I need to do, hop in the car and head down. When I get there he hides behind the door as he opens it. He’s naked… He leads me into his apartment and I practically fall in love… I hadn’t realized he was a little guy – about 5’8″. His pictures were perfectly accurate, but what they didn’t show was his back… It had a huge, exquisite tattoo on it that went all the way down to the top of his ass. And his ass was incredible as well.

While he’s looking around for something, I start undressing. He asks if I want my dick sucked. I tell him I want to rim his ass first… He gets on all fours at the edge of the bed and I dive in and enjoy his ass. I knew he wanted to suck dick, so when I was rock hard, I offer him my dick. He has me lay down on the bed and he starts sucking my cock. It goes on, and on, and on… At one point he tells me to just relax and enjoy. He has his hand on my belly and I’m feeling his hairy forearm with my hand… At one point he has me reposition to the edge of the bed he can be kneeling on the floor. But he just keeps sucking and sucking. And it’s a decent blow job…

Finally I tell him I want his ass. I really wanted to rim him and then fuck him, but he gets on his back and immediately reaches for the hand lotion and puts a bunch all over his hole (so much for rimming)… I push back his legs and shove in… He feels good. It’s just really hot having this little, hairy Brazilian musle boy under me. His big dick just isn’t in the mood (he must have jacked off or something earlier), but I didn’t care. I just liked fucking a prime piece of meat…

I have to actually work not to cum. I had a five day load in me and he just gave me a really long blow job… I flip him over and fuck him on his belly. After a little while I can’t hold it any more. I tell him he’s a good pussy boy bottom and blow my 5 day load up his ass…

I wanna keep on fucking him, so I get him up into doggy position and continue to fuck him. He takes this as a queue and starts jacking off, and then blows his load pretty quickly. He must have been jacking off a lot ’cause there wasn’t much on the bed when he had me pull out and we laid down. Problem was there were brown spots on the bed – he was dirty… So I get up and go into the bathroom and wash off my dick. He turned on the TV, so I sit down and watch the local news on NY1, not sure what he wanted to do next.

When he comes back we play around a little more, but it was clear it was time to go… All in all a pretty good hookup. Definitely like some of the hot guys I’ve been fucking lately…

BTW, I’ve now cum in as many asses so far this year as I did in all of 2006. I’m definitely enjoying things this year!

The CDC released some statistics the other day… There were a couple of trends that stood out to me…

First, take a look at the following graph…

What’s clear is that something changed for gay men in 1999. That was the last year there was a downward trend in HIV infections. The next year infections were up and they’ve gone up steadily ever since…

I think it’s noteworthy to mention that Treasure Island’s “What I Can’t See” came out in 1999. I view that video as being truly ground breaking – it’s a video every barebacker should own – if for no other reason its historical value (BTW if you want the video Tipo Sesso, who I’ve linked to, is having a sale this weekend – use promo code SPD08 and you get an additional 20% off).

Think about what porn was like in 1999. Condoms, condoms everywhere… And then there was “What I Can’t See” with a blindfolded, “take all loads” bottom getting gangbanged – guy after guy just stepped up, fucked him and came in his ass without him ever seeing their face.

It put on screen what a lot of us had been craving and we totally got off on it. That video redefined what was what we wanted – even if we only fantasized about it at first… Tops wanted a bottom like that with a cum-filled hole to take their loads without question. Bottoms started fantasizing about getting gangbanged and taking anonymous loads.

I’m not saying that video or Treasure Island caused the increase in HIV infections… Back in 1997, two years before “What I Can’t See”, I would go to West Side Club, a bathhouse here in New York. I could always find at least two or three bottoms who were taking loads. I even chatted with a fan the other day – he was one of those bottoms and most likely got himself pozzed at West Side Club in 1996. (For all I know he was one of the bottoms I fucked…)

Remember also that protease inhibitors came out in 1996. By 1999 their effects were clear – HIV/AIDS just wasn’t the same as it had been.

It’s hard to prove that bareback porn is responsible for HIV infections. But the tide turned in 1999. It was the year people generally started seeing HIV in a different light and “What I Can’t See” reinforced what they were already thinking, and by the next year HIV infections among gay men were on the rise and Treasure Island was on its way to being the bareback power house it is today.

There’s another trend in the report that stood out really clearly…

That graph is actually pretty amazing… All of the groups are seeing an increase, but it looks like young black guys are the ones losing their inhibitions the fastest, taking loads, and getting pozzed. From what I’ve seen I would have expected it to be Latinos, but they’re nowhere close to their African-American counterparts… I don’t see all that many black bottoms advertising for loads – there must be something going on in other parts of the country… Then again there are a lot of bareback sex parties for “in shape” black and latin guys…

Again, I wish the data went beyond 2005… But I think the take away is that barebacking, bareback porn, and HIV infections are something that’s not going away… Especially with the trends among the young guys… It’s clear these young kids love getting their asses filled with cum. They’ve caught the bareback bug (pun intended) and those desires are not going to go away…

The other day I was looking around BarebackRT.com and noticed that I wasn’t seeing everyone I should see… I was listed as being in “New York, NY” and was only seeing people who were also in “New York, NY”. Problem is, they also have “Manhattan, NY” (same place), and I’m really close to The Bronx and parts of Northern New Jersey, and I’d like to see people in Queens and Brooklyn as well…

The problem is they don’t have their site organized by metropolitan area – they have it organized by state and city. So people in big sprawling cities where everyone has the same city name (like Houston) will do fine. I suspect this is why they’ve done well in Chicago (or is that made up of a lot of little towns and cities?).

So, if you’re in a place that has a lot of other town and city names near it, you’ll need to set it to view everyone in your state in order to get the most out of BarebackRT.com. That’s still not perfect since I can’t see people who are less than a mile away from me in New Jersey, but it’s definitely better.

You can also do a “Detailed Search” and search for guys in a radius around your zip code. It’s a little cumbersome, but it will give the best results.

I’m sure they’ll fix the problem in the not-too-distant future, but in the meantime don’t think there’s not many people near you when you log into the site – there could be quite a few guys near you…

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Back in 2001 when my bf and I had been together for a little over 3 years, I wasn’t getting enough sex and I was fucking guys on the side (bareback of course). It was during this time that I fucked “Max” who went on to be the NY-based porn producer for Treasure Island, which is how 3 years later I wound up fucking Dawson in Dawson’s 20 Load weekend… But I digress…

My memory’s a little fuzzy, but if I remember correctly my bf found out I was fucking guys behind his back, there was a big argument, and the outcome was that we’d do 3-ways with bottoms. We thought this would be a great idea. We found a few guys and had a few good hookups (one of the guys we even later saw on Law & Order). But the problem was guys were usually either into one or the other of us, and we always used condoms, which I hated.

But we did find a few bottoms and the very first guy we did a 3-way with was this little, well-built, poz black guy. My bf was fine with him being poz because we were going to fuck him with rubbers… I remember a few things about him – like how his hole felt – it was like a wonderful muscular tube. The other thing was that he went shopping with us afterwards to Triple 5 Soul… (That was the first and last time we went shopping with someone after fucking them)…

Anyway, a few years later I see him online and we chat, he figures out I bareback, and he mentions that he wished he had taken my load. And then later he figured out I was the person behind this blog… For a number of reasons we never hooked up again – until last night…

I see him online yesterday on BarebackRT and tell him I want to fuck him. He had the day off, so he comes over after I was done with work. He looks great – hasn’t changed much in 7 years. He apologizes for having gained 10 lbs, but as I find later, the 10 lbs works well on him… Of course, I gained a lot more than 10 lbs over that time, but he’s fine with it…

He had said he was OK with pics or video provided people couldn’t figure out who he was, but the problem was I couldn’t find the tripod and my bf wasn’t around. I didn’t want the distraction of having to hold the video camera while I fucked, so video was out. After taking off the necessary clothes, I grab the camera and take pictures of his ass. The pictures aren’t as hot as the real thing… What you can’t see is how he’s like the perfect little beefy, muscular bottom. Nice ass, great chest and arms…

So then I put down the camera and eat out his ass, then I have him blow me, then eat out his ass some more, then he blows me again, etc… I then lube up his hole and my dick, pick up the camera again and go to fuck him. But the camera doesn’t take a picture when I press the button. I look and it turns out the memory is full on the camera. So sorry guys – ass shots are all you’re getting…

He’s a bit sensitive when I start fucking him, so I take it slow… His hole feels really good… He’s on his stomach, which is my favorite position with little guys. It would have been so easy to just blow my load after a few strokes, but I wanted it to last a while, so I fuck him with slow and deliberate strokes. Finally, I just can’t hold back any more and I unload in his ass. That’s what he came for – it’s the load he’s been wanting for years…

I keep my dick in his ass (I had taken a couple pills so I was able to stay fairly hard after cumming). I continue to slowly fuck him as we cuddle and talk a bit. His ass is all cummy and feels absolutely incredible… He tells me that was the first load he’d gotten in his ass in about two years. He has a boyfriend, doesn’t live in Manhattan where it’s easier to get laid, and since he’s versatile most guys seem to want him to top.

I remembered he was a sweet guy, but had forgotten what his personality was like. He’s sorta straight-laced in many ways – until he starts talking about sex. While he doesn’t get enough of it, he loves fucking raw – breeding and getting bred. And he’s really in love with Treasure Island videos…

I think I fucked him longer after I came than I did before. It was just nice and relaxed. Then I pulled out, he cleaned off my dick for me, and we cuddled and talked some more. Among other things we talked about him being poz… He’s been poz for something like 20 years – looks great, and has had very few health problems. (He previously he’d told me he’s been “undetectable” for years). He also mentioned he had jacked off 5 times that day thinking about taking my load. That was too bad ’cause I remember him having a really nice dick – but he wasn’t getting hard ’cause he had jacked off so much…

Then I wanted to fuck him more, so I went back and pounded his ass. This time I didn’t have to worry about cumming, so I was a bit more forceful than the first time. But at the same time, since I had cum earlier, I wasn’t completely hard. Eventually I went a bit too soft to fuck and we cuddled some more with my dick in his ass.

It felt really good to cuddle with him – his body was beefy and muscular – his chest and arms felt really good.

All in all it was a great hookup. I need to get him back here and videotape it (can’t believe I couldn’t find the damn tripod – but once he was here I wanted it to be about him, not about the video equipment…)

LOGO put together a great PSA inspired by the Larry King tragedy. They’ve even put it in as a splash screen for their site (before you get to their homepage). Ellen DeGeneris did her bit a little while ago, but LOGO put together a really great group of celebrities for this one…

This is a huge issue. With a LGBT person getting killed every 8 days, it just has to get more attention.

As they say in NYC – “If you see something, say something…”