Thanks to LifeLube, I just discovered inSPOT which is a service that’s been around for 4 years that lets you anonymously tell other guys you may have given them an STD.

I’m not sure how I feel about it though… I mean this means the organization behind inSPOT could have a database of guys who are getting STDs… I prefer to tell guys myself when it happens (and appreciate it when guys tell me)… But I guess it’s better than nothing…

One of the big limitations is that you need the guy’s e-mail address. It’s too bad they haven’t partnered with the major hookup sites so you can send the same message to say a Manhunt profile.

No matter how you do it – tell partners they may have been exposed… STDs are a drag and if we’re just honest with each other and get them treated quickly, they’ll spread less which means fewer STDs for everyone – including you!

[To be clear, the title is a bit tongue and cheek – see my comment in the comments section…]

A new report is out today from the NYC Department of Health (PDF) that shows that a surprising number of New Yorkers are using condoms… Here are some of the findings:

• Gay men with multiple partners are more likely to use condoms than straight guys or bisexual guys. 75% of gay men used condoms in their last sexual encounter compared to 63% of straight guys and 55% of bisexual guys.
• 23% of gay men had 5 or more sex partners in the past year (compared to 6% of straight guys).
• 62% (straight + gay) of guys with 5 or more sex partners used a condom the last time they had sex.
• Overall 60% of New Yorkers used condoms in their last sexual encounter.
• 18-24 year olds (men + women, gay + straight) are more likely to use condoms.

I’m sorta surprised the the numbers – that so many guys are using condoms… Only 25% of gay sex in New York is bareback. But the good news is that the percentage is nearly double for bisexual guys (45%). [Great news for us, but possibly scary for the women they fuck who don’t know they’re bisexual.]

I’m also really surprised that only 23% of gay guys in New York have 5 or more sex partners. Hell, I had double that the other night at the bathhouse in Montreal (if you count oral in with fucking).

According to the spreadsheet I’m keeping of my hookups, if I keep up at the pace I’ve gone so far this year, I’ll get my bare dick in 89 holes I’ve never fucked before, plus the ones I have fucked for a total of 113 sexual encounters, and I’ll deposit 87 loads in guys’ asses… If you add in oral sex at places like backrooms and bathhouses, I’d be well over 100 sex partners this year… And I don’t even consider myself to be all that sex-obsessed… I mean there are guys who are getting a lot more sex than me… There are plenty of nights (like tonight) when I’m just not in the mood…

Even in my slower years I was getting in about 25 new asses each year and depositing slightly fewer loads than that… The concept that over 3/4ths of gay guys have fewer than 5 sexual partners when a slow year for me is 25 (plus oral) is sorta shocking… I mean who are these people and why aren’t they having sex?

I’ve been chatting with “BareBottom1980” – the blogger out in Omaha. He sorta proves a point that anyone can have a good sex life. He had gotten really heavy at one point, he’s lost a lot of weight but would still be considered “fat” by a lot of guys, but that’s not stopping him – he’s having a great ‘ol time taking loads. What changed for him? He just decided to be a slut… He’ll take a load from just about anyone… There are plenty of guys willing to nutt in his ass (even in the Omaha), and he’s loving every minute of it…

So there’s really no good excuse for a sucky sex life. Get your ass (or dick) out there and have fun!

Bottom line – we’ve got some work to do… To get down the percentage of guys using condoms, and to get up the percentage of guys with lots of sex partners…

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I’m in Montréal this weekend. Came up for a vacation and to talk to the people behind BarebackThatHole.com about doing more with them – they want me to become more tightly integrated with their business. (Don’t worry – it won’t affect the blog in any way). But that isn’t what the post is about…

I’m really enjoying Montréal this time – far more than the other times I’ve come. It’s always been a great place to spend a weekend, but this is the first time I could see actually living here. I don’t think that will happen any time soon since my bf likes Montréal but doesn’t want to move here – he’s worked too hard to make a life in NY.

Still, it’s a really cool place. This is the first weekend of them shutting down a huge part of St. Catherine Street (the main street that goes through the heart of the “gay village”). It’s turned the place into this really special outdoor community. All the restaurants and bars have spent money and built patios into the street and it will continue to be like this all summer. But more than that we’ve been doing touristy stuff during the days and seeing more than just the gay part of the city…

Oh yeah – and thanks the the Behind That Hole folks, we found the perfect B&B in the gay village – Ruta Bagage – I HIGHLY recommend it. It’s totally charming, run by a nice guy, and about a half block from the hottest part of the gay village.

Montréal has always been one of those places where there were certain times where places were ‘hot’ – if you were a few hours off you’d miss most of the fun. But it’s interesting to see what’s still hot and what’s not… Saloon (a restaurant) is still completely at the top of its game – totally packed, and even has a live DJ. We had dinner there the first night and I there was this cute guy talking to people at the table next to us. Then I heard someone say he’s the owner… Sorta figures…

Meanwhile the Italian restaurant across the street, Daviolo (“little devil”), used to be hot, but now has literally zero customers. How they could lack the imagination to have a happy hour with snack food to get things going is beyond me…

L’Aigle Noir (The Black Eagle) isn’t doing very well either. Which is weird. Le Stud has a lot of the same crowd, and it’s still popular, but the Eagle is mostly dead. It’s sorta sad – a few years ago the Eagle was doing so much better…

All in all it’s weird… Some things are doing as good or better as they used to, other places not so much. I wonder how much of it has to do with the reduction in tourists from the US. Since the US dollar is so much weaker fewer of us come up.

But it might also be the weekend. Tuesday is the 400th anniversary of French settlement in Canada. So it’s a really big weekend and it could be that people are out of town. But it was sorta like this in January when we came up – but then again, that was the dead of winter…

Saturday night my bf and I went to G.I. Joe (a bathhouse). It too was not doing all that well. It was still incredibly sexually charged (which I’ll get to in a moment – trust me), but there were maybe a quarter or a third of the people there that there were a few years ago. My bf thinks it’s because of 1) there are fewer tourists at the bathhouses and 2) if Montrealers are just going to see other Montrealers at the tubs and the economy is down – it’s cheaper for them to hookup with other Montrealers online than spend $27 to get a room at a bathhouse.

OK, so getting onto the sex bit. There were a few guys who wanted to hookup who I found online before we came up here. One cute 23 y.o. twink even wanted to come like 3 hours from Ottawa to hookup with me. But they were just too hard to coordinate and with my bf being here if we did something like that we’d want a 3way. Going to “the tubs” just made more sense – there we could have sex separately…

The first night (Friday) we just weren’t in the mood and after going out for drinks we went to bed at a pretty reasonable hour for being on vacation (midnight). But Saturday I wanted to do something sexual and decided to go to G.I. Joe. Montréal has a lot of bathhouses – like tons of them… There are three just on the main gay strip, plus others scattered throughout the city – we even found one on Sunday while looking at a big church on a walking tour (it was right next door)…

G.I. Joe is the bathhouse with older, masculine sex pigs. There’s another one down the street for young guys, and another one on the strip for really old guys and fat guys… But G.I. Joe has a wide mix of everything from muscle guys to bears – no twinks though… Youngest guys I saw there were maybe upper 20s.

I got a room, my bf got a locker – he wasn’t sure he really wanted to be there and wound up getting bored and leaving before he hooked up with anyone. Later he said he thought it was a bit depressing – but that wasn’t my experience at all…

I wandered around… Saw a little action in the basement, but more seemed to be happening upstairs. They seemed to be having maintenance issues. Both saunas were closed (wet and dry), and water was leaking into the basement and in their dungeon play area… It looked like a huge mess. But the guys that were there were horny and for the most part ready to fuck. There were a lot of guys laying on their bellies – stuff like that. There was just no comparison to Flex Cleveland – GI Joe was so much better, even though it wasn’t as busy as it was a few years ago.

While there were a bunch of guys on their bellies, there weren’t a lot of guys I really wanted to fuck. The one I was interested in wasn’t interested in me – whatever, that happens… So I went and sat in my room and jacked my dick. That was the magic formula that night… All sorts of guys came in my room. Some just wanted to suck my dick, others I wasn’t interested in. Some were marginal, but I played with them just ’cause I was horny…

The first guy I fucked was this older guy that was flagging fisting versatile. I wasn’t all that into him, but he blew me and then made sure I noticed his greasy ass. I was there to fuck and he had a greasy ass… So even though I wasn’t all that into him I fucked him for a bit. Then he said “I’m not ready” and left. Not sure what he wasn’t ready for, but whatever… I mean who cares if he got a load in his ass…It’s not like a top who can legitimately not be ready to cum…

The second guy I almost said ‘not interested’ to, but I was totally glad afterwards that I didn’t. He was this beefy daddy. He has a bit of a belly, but other parts of him were solid. His hair was graying, but in a really sexy way… His face was wide and masculine…

I’ve been trying to remember how it started with him (my mind’s a bit of a blur)… I think he came in, saw my dick, turned around and sat on it… I fucked him that way for a second, then repositioned with him on the bed on his knees – ass up, head down… This is when it really struck me how hot this guy was… While he was beefy, not lean, he was really well proportioned. His torso tapered down to his waist, he had a great ass (not fat), He was hairy in all the right places, and had shaved the others (had a little bit of stubble on his back).

He was width-wise on the bed and I was standing behind him fucking him raw. The hottest part was how this masculine daddy put his head down, and took his fucking and never looked back. He was basically presenting himself to me as just a hole to fuck – and god knows, I love guys who are eager holes… So it was a good match.

At one point I felt like I’d be able to cum in his ass, then that sorta died down. I really wanted to seed him, but started thinking it wasn’t going to happen. Finally I pulled out and rimmed him and then we played around – kissing, sucking nipples, and him sucking my dick. That got me ready for round two and I went back to fucking him…

This time I knew I was going to cum, it was just a matter of time… I kept fucking and fucking and the orgasm kept seeming like it was right around the corner. It wasn’t like I minded fucking him. I was just worried he’d want to change positions or something or want to stop. But luckily that wasn’t the case. He stayed there, head down getting fucked until my orgasm finally came. And when it came I gave him a HUGE load. I usually give big loads, but this one just went on and on…

I got down on my knees and rimmed him, hoping to taste my cum, but never really got any. At one point I think he pushed some out for me, but I missed it ’cause I was up taking a breath and it happened quickly… I gotta say though – the guy had the perfect daddy ass… Somewhat hairy – but it just felt good…

We kissed a little and then he left at which point I closed the door and rested for maybe 10 or 15 minutes. I knew since I had just cum that it would take a little while to be ready to fuck again…

But eventually I was ready and so I went out and looked around some more. Before I found anyone I ran into the daddy again and he asked if I wanted to fuck some more. Since he was a good fuck I was game…

This time it wasn’t about me trying to cum – it was about me fucking him and him jacking off and cumming… Again, he was ass up, head down on the bed. This guy doesn’t like “making a connection” when he fucks – he just likes getting fucked. It’s not like he didn’t make a connection – it was just a more general connection… When it came to getting fucked he just wanted to be a hole.

We started with me rimming him. This time I did get a brief taste of cum (presumably it was mine), so that was hot. When I fucked him, his cummy ass felt even better than before. He was jacking his dick and after a while I could tell he came and so I stopped and just kept my dick in his ass for a bit.

After he left I wandered around a bit seeing who I wanted to fuck. I ran into the hot daddy – he was dressed and leaving. Gotta say he looked good in street clothes… He asked if he could give me his number, so we went downstairs and he wrote his name, number and e-mail address on a card. He’s someone I’d definitely hookup with again next time I come here… Even if we just meet up at a bathhouse again… He was a hot fuck…

As I wandered around I saw a few more guys on their bellies. This one guy was on all fours in his room with his ass towards the door. I watched for a bit and then went in. I was mostly hard so just shoved my dick in his greasy hole. He had a tub of Crisco next to him, so presumably he was looking for more than getting fucked, but I just wanted to fuck him. His whole body was greasy from Crisco, which was a little weird. But he was lean, somewhat muscular so looked pretty hot… at least from the position I saw him… Never did see his face. He just stayed with his head buried in the bed…

His hole was greasy, soft and loose. I’ve never fucked pussy, but I’m thinking it has to be a bit like this guy’s hole… he had positioned himself so that I couldn’t close the door (his foot was in the way). That seemed to be intentional, so I fucked him with the door open. That drew a bit of a crowd and there were a few guys who were watching me fuck him. I didn’t really know if fucking this particular guy was the reputation I wanted that night, so after maybe 5 minutes of fucking him, I broke it off and left…

I wandered around a bit more and saw a few guys I sorta wanted to fuck. One was a guy in room 8 who was fairly young and seemed pretty hot. I had seen him in a 3way earlier, and there were a few of us looking at him. I couldn’t tell if he wanted me or one of the other guys, and before I made my move another guy went in and closed the door.

There was also a guy in room 32 getting fucked who was hot. But when I passed by later the door was always closed. (I remember the room numbers ’cause 8 and 32 are significant numbers when you work with computers like I do…)

I wound up back in my room. One of the guys who saw me fucking the anonymous hole came into my room. He was an older guy – like upper 50s and I didn’t really want to fuck him, but he wouldn’t take no for answer and wasn’t completely gross. He showed me his ass as soon as he came in, but I didn’t really want to fuck it. So then he started giving me a blowjob. I gotta say, he was a talented cocksucker, though it was weird that he kept his glasses on while giving me head.

Then he repositioned himself so I could feel his ass. It was lubed and ready. I figured what the fuck, got up and fucked him for a bit. But since I wasn’t really into him, it didn’t last long… He seemed grateful for what he got and left…

I then wandered around a bit more and saw this hot late-20-something guy getting fucked in the hot tub by an older daddy top. Thought it was weird that the daddy top didn’t leave the hot tub when the bottom did, but then I noticed there was a cocksucker in there who was servicing him… The bottom played around with these tattooed muscle guys in the shower – but it was just horsing around – no sex…

There were a few of us watching the scene and when it started breaking up the bottom stayed in the shower and wanted to get fucked some more. I was tempted, but didn’t really feel like such a public spectacle…

So I wound up in my room again. Guys were coming by – some were just sucking my dick, but this one guy came in, turned around, and sat on my dick for a minute or so and then said he had just wanted it in his ass for a little bit and he was going to leave. I said “you can have more if you want…” but he had done his thing and that was it for him…

Then one of the guys who had been watching the scene in the hot tub and shower area stopped by. He was short, lean and very muscular (without being overbuilt). We played around a bit – sucking each other’s dicks, kissing, stuff like that… I didn’t understand why such a hot guy who obviously spent a lot of time at the gym would be so into me, but whatever… I was enjoying it, so I wasn’t asking questions.

He’d throw his legs in the air and have me finger his hole, but he never seemed to want to get fucked. Which was probably just as well – he had bumps around his hole. Don’t think they were warts – not sure what that is… When he threw his legs in the air his abs had a perfect 6-pack… He was a hot little guy.

When things wound down with him I considered looking around a bit more, but figured I’d had enough ass that night… I had gotten my dick in 5 raw holes, barebacked a hot muscle daddy, and generally played around with a nice selection of guys…

So I figured I’d end things before I got tired of the place, left and went back to the B&B…

The next night I was wiped from walking all around the city during the day, so after dinner we just turned in and went to bed a little early. Boring, I know, but it suited us…

I was going to put this on the porn blog, but this is more funny than erotic, so I figured I’d put it here on the main blog…

A new, mostly bareback, site came out last month – TheCrossDressers.com. It’s the guys from what I call “The Euro Group” in the links in the sidebar, only this time some of them dress up in women’s clothes to get fucked.

Thing is, some of the guys are just fucking scary in drag… I mean look at these pics… Would you have sex with these guys dressed like that? Or the better question might be could you even get a hardon looking at them like that? I’m pretty sure I couldn’t…

Still, the pics are pretty funny…

If you’re NOT like me and this shit turns you on… Then by all means, check out TheCrossDressers.com. Personally, I’ll be taking a pass…

[To be fair, not all their cross dressers are this scary…]

Last night I was supposed to fuck this hot mid-20s skinny guy who rarely ever (if ever) barebacks – a fan who I keep running into at bars – first he saw me at the Gym like a week ao, then I saw him at the Eagle this past Sunday at Beer Blast… Thing was he doesn’t want to travel up here, and can’t host, so the blogger “Bingity Bang” (who took his blog down a while ago) had agreed to host us, but then the guy canceled ’cause he wasn’t sure he could make it… On top of it all, I managed to piss off Bingity Bang ’cause I just sent a message on Manhunt and didn’t call him. He had been checking Manhunt a lot earlier in the day… And personally I hate unnecessary calls and texts on my cell. Oops…

So then I was looking for someone else to fuck. This black 19 y.o. had an ad on Craigslist saying

black neg. d/d free bottom looking for a gl white raw neg. d/d free top. who can make my ass drip of his seed. send a pic or number in first email. im looking for now cant host must travel. older white a +++

So I contacted him and he was interested. Then right as we were making plans for him to come up he asked if I’d fuck him with a condom – he’d never barebacked before and was nervous. I told him ‘no’ and tried to reassure him that I was just a pretty regular guy… That seemed to work and he said he was coming up, but he never actually showed up. That was really too bad. I so wanted to be the first guy to seed his hole.

Even though I sorta half expected him to flake out, the problem was I had taken a couple pills. Now I had a hardon and no hole to fuck. I start chatting with this young, mid-20s, bareback top who lives near me – he was looking as well.

In the middle of that I was chatting with the bottom who I had hooked up with who likes golden showers. He said it turned him on that I thought he’d be back taking loads – that I was so certain about it. Encouraging him to do it without really pushing him to do it…

Anyway, even though I had a raging hardon, I had to break for dinner (with my bf and a neighbor). When I was done I looked some more and talked some more to the young top. One guy was online who was a possibility – I had fucked him once before, and then gone over to his place to fuck a bottom he was fucking… He’s one of the tops I had contacted the other night when the blindfolded bottom wanted more tops. Since he knew I was into blindfolded pump-and-dumps he asked if he could be blindfolded. I said sure and said I had another top who might want to come over. He was game, so I IM’d the top and he was game as well…

The top and I met in the subway station and headed over. We got there and the door was unlocked. We went up to his bedroom and he’s there on all fours in tighty whities that have a hole ripped in them showing his hole. I get down on my knees and rim his hole while the other top took off some of his clothes…

After getting nice and hard I started fucking the bottom (the young top wasn’t ready)… My dick was pretty big at this point – I had a cockring on and the pills were doing their job. The only problem was the bottom’s hole was a little high for my dick and he didn’t get the suggestion when I tried to pull his ass towards me (which since he was on all fours would have lowered his ass). So it was a little awkward, but OK…

I fucked him for a while, but given the imperfect position, when the young top got hard, I was fine with giving him use of the bottom’s hole. There was a little bit of odor when I pulled out, but I didn’t think too much of it. He wasn’t perfectly clean, but wasn’t all that dirty either…

While the young top was fucking the bottom, I figured I’d fuck his face. I didn’t really give too much thought to the fact that my dick wasn’t perfectly clean. Most bottoms I’ve fucked lately would just clean off my dick. But this guy was versatile, not a sub bottom, and in hindsight giving him a slightly dirty dick to suck was a bad idea.

The two of us filled him from both ends for a bit, but then as soon as we stopped to change positions, he got up, took off the blindfold and ran into the shower to clean out some more… So much for him not seeing the other top…

After that point the hookup was sorta weird. He tried to put everything back in order by almost jumping into place on the bed and throwing his legs in the air in a “let’s start again” sorta way… I rimmed him and then fucked him. But things just weren’t the same. It wasn’t an anonymous pump-and-dump anymore…

The young top had told me before we went that he was tired and not sure how well he was going to perform. Several times he’d get hard enough to fuck, and then lose it. That was sorta my story as well that night, though I was doing better than the young top… I probably fucked the bottom on and off a half dozen times, but none of them lasted very long, and I didn’t feel like I was even close to cumming any of those times.

After the bottom came, we sorta wrapped it up and went home. It’s too bad it didn’t go a little better.

I’m wondering whether eating dinner had some effect. The time I organized a gangbang I had a heavy meal, took some pills, and then couldn’t get very hard. This time I took pills, had a fairly moderate meal, and then had so-so results. And there are also other times when I have eaten and taken pills and had issues… So I’m thinking that’s a bad combination… Or maybe it’s just eating before hooking up – I’m not sure…

So I’m hoping I have time tonight to get to Matt & Dan’s gangbang… It should make up for last night, but I’ve got some other stuff that might conflict with me going…

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Finally catching up and doing the post for a hookup a little over a week ago. It involved video, so I had to find the time to edit it, get it up, and get the bottom’s OK on it…

So this hot, masculine guy contacted me and wanted to hookup. Since IML my profile is more explicit and talks about stuff like s/m and piss. He mentioned he was into drinking piss… I asked if he was OK with rank piss (since mine tends to be) and he said he liked it better that way… After about a week of back and forth we finally found a time one Sunday morning. Oh yeah – and he wanted it videotaped (obviously)…

I get there – great building, nice apartment, and the guy was just as hot as his pics – sorta masculine, muscular (in a manly way), nice face… Looked like it was going to be a good hookup.

I get the tripod and the camera ready and we start with him drinking my piss and giving me a blowjob. (The video of that is coming – so check back later.) I wanted to get a shot of him with a mouthful of yellow piss, but the mouth opening on the rubber hood wasn’t all that big and it just didn’t work.

Whereas the piss bottom I hooked up with at IML tolerated my rank piss, and thought it tasted better after a few beers, this guy totally loved how rank it was. He kept saying how good it tasted… The guy was a hardcore pig… That combined with how hot and masculine he was – it was a great combination…

After he drank my piss he gave me a blowjob and got me nice and hard, then we moved onto to me rimming his hole. He’s got this big beefy, muscular man butt with a hole that looks like it’s seen some use… But I like experienced bottoms and as I’d find out in a bit – that hole was incredibly talented…

As usual the rimming went on for quite a while, and then I went to fuck him. After the fact I realized I had sorta screwed up the camera angle while I was fucking him… It didn’t show much of him and made me look like a fat slob – so that’s all been edited out of the video. But the bottom line was that I had him mostly on his belly and gave him a nice big load.

Then I went back to rimming him. OMG! This is when I really came to appreciate his hole… His ass was so muscular he could push it out. You know tounge fucking – well he was doing that with his ass… Pushing his ass into my mouth. And the best part is everytime he’d do it, I’d taste my load. It was possibily one of the best rimming/felching experiences I’ve ever had… In the video this part is mixed in with the earlier rimming…

Then I had him lay on his back and try to push out the load… It took him a while, but when it started coming out it was pretty hot… His cummy ass looks really wonderful…

We then took a break, sat on the bed and looked at the video we’d just shot. That got me hard, so we went back to a little oral and then back to fucking. This time I got the camera angle right and this is the fucking you see in the video. It’s almost impossible for me to cum a second time – so there’s no actual shot of me cumming in the video.

Of course I keep taking breaks to taste his well fucked cummy hole… It was pretty sweet…

Then we watched the second bit of video. The only downside to a bottom who likes rank piss is bad breath… Sitting on the bed watching the video it was pretty noticeable – but I figured it was partly my doing (since my piss was the major contributor to how his breath smelled), so I didn’t say anything, but I didn’t really want to kiss him… That worked itself out and we had a good time…

The tricky part about editing the video is that the guy has these tattoos all over his body, so every time he moved I’d have to cut stuff out of the video. And then in other parts I had to crop the image to not show his tats… Was a bit of a pain, but think it came out pretty well.

And lastly – he told me today he wants a repeat where he takes on two tops. He’s only ever taken loads from one guy at a time before and wants to change that… Thing is, he’s neg and looking for neg tops. I think I have a top lined up for him, but if you’re interested, let me know – rawtop@yahoo.com…