I used to think Aiden Shaw was SO hot! You sorta wonder what happened to the old porn stars. So many of the ones I jacked off to when I was young are probably dead…

Well, Aiden is very much alive and kicking and he’s still sexy as hell. Here’s a video of him talking about his big dick. He’s aged incredibly gracefully and his accent is just wonderful to listen to.

A guy just wrote me the following letter. Thought I’d share it..

First off… Big fan of your Porn work. I would always search your name in my favorite search engines. But then I ran across your personal web page and started to read your personal blog page… I know that what you are talking about doesn’t always show all the aspects of you… meaning that in the context of what you are talking about(or selling/advertising), doesn’t necessarily show the “real” you, I was however,disappointed.When I looked at you, I saw a caring, responsible, loving person, characteristics that your blog doesn’t portray. I hope that you are more then what your blog portrays you as, ( an uncaring, selfish lover, only interested in his on satisfaction). In the real world, we as gay men want a satisfying sex life, along side a satisfying LIFE as whole, coming home to someone that loves you, not any “hole” that you can “fill up” and then send on his way. As a professional in the Medical business,( a mental health therapist), I can tell you that the “holes” that you are “filling up”, are actually lonely human beings looking for companionship anyway that they can, and feel that the only possible way to do this, if only for a short while, is with their ass in the air waiting for you to fill up, not only their asshole, but also the hole that they have inside themselves trying desperately to fill. But sadly, after you are through with them, it leaves them with only a bigger hole to fill the next time.

I hope that you take this into consideration when looking for you next “hole” to fill.

My response to him was this…

It’s not my job to fix the emotional problems of the bottoms I fuck. It sounds like you want me to form relationships and deep bonds with the bottoms I fuck. I’ve got a boyfriend and if I were putting my emotional energy into what you’re asking it would threaten the relationship with him. That’s not going to happen. When I fuck a bottom it’s no strings attached. In most cases I do cuddle with the bottoms afterwards, but chances are it’s just going to be a one time hookup. And I do mention cuddling and talking with the bottoms in my blog.The “empty holes” you’re talking about need meaningful friends. They need boyfriends. While I’m a firm believer that you can find those by having sex (I met my bf in a bathhouse and we’re still together 12 years later), finding friends shouldn’t be the the reason someone has sex. The people who try to find friends in sex often wind up in the PNP crowd and destroy their lives in the process.

So don’t lecture me about how I act towards the bottoms I fuck. Their problems aren’t going to be fixed through sex. They’ll be fixed by going out and spending quality time with friends, and by finding a boyfriend. I’m guessing the people you’re talking about are picky and have passed on many guys who would be really great boyfriends. And then when they find one it’s either the wrong type (someone who’s abusive), or they don’t know how to compromise and lose him… None of that is a sexual problem.

Let me make something really really clear… If you’re one of those holes he’s describing – ask yourself why you’re lonely. Choose to fix the problem. Go out and get involved with something and make some friends. Play a sport, sing in a choir, join an S/M group – whatever… And then give your friends the attention it takes to maintain the friendship. If you’ve got friends and don’t like coming home to an empty apartment/house – get a dog (and give it the attention it needs).

And if you find a boyfriend, treat him well and learn to compromise. When you feel like breaking up ask yourself what percentage of the relationship works. No relationship is perfect – if you dwell on what’s wrong, you will break up. Concentrate on what’s right. If what’s right isn’t enough, and you’re honestly not looking for perfection, then that’s a decent reason to break up. Or if there are serious issues like the guy being genuinely abusive – then leave (quickly). But I honestly think the reason why I’m still with my bf 12 years later is because we put up with each other. Overall we’ve got a great relationship, but there are times when we have big problems and little things that irritate each of us – but we put up with the things we don’t like and get back to what’s right – that’s why we’re still together.

Now, if you’re a “hole” then something in you likes the sex. You’ll definitely want to find someone who’s OK with random, no strings attached sex. Monogamy is probably a really bad idea in your case. Sexually, your boyfriend should get off seeing you get fucked or when he discovers someone else’s cum in your ass… I think sluts think they can’t have boyfriends. I’ve never understood that – what good top wouldn’t want to find his boyfriend’s ass is prelubed with someone else’s cum?

And for god’s sake – just because you’re a sub bottom doesn’t mean you have to be passive about getting into a relationship. Even subs can communicate what they want… “I’d love to stay here and have you fuck me all night”, “I’ll do anything you want Sir – if you want other guys to fuck me, I’m OK with that”, “You can call me anytime – I want as many loads from you as possible”… And if a sub can communicate what they want, then anyone can… Don’t assume you have to let the top take the lead in initiating the relationship – make it clear you’re available and interested (without coming off as too needy or desperate).

Anyway, enough of my soapbox. I know the holes I fuck are real people – but the “empty holes” aren’t going to have the emptiness filled by cum and anonymous sex. That takes real relationships and they take more time than a 15 minute hookup (or even an hour hookup)…

UPDATE:

I’ve corresponded with the guy some more… Turns out he used to be straight – was even married with kids and his boyfriend has “a similar background”. He’s in a pretty small town and has had sex with very few men. So bottom line he has a straight / small town sorta mentality about sex. He doesn’t even know anyone who’s really a cumhole – so his talking about them feeling empty, etc. was all just idle speculation. That sorta explains it, doesn’t it? Amazing how guys like that think they understand things they have no experience with.

Just saw this video over at Cum Craver’s blog… Very hot! The band is Gay Fight Club, and the top is Peto Coast who’s done some videos for Macho Fucker.

I really wish stuff like this was more typical – that you could go out to a concert or a bar and just suck and fuck openly… Seems pretty normal and natural to me…

So Playgirl’s photos of Levi Johnston came out today (that was quick). Frankly, I think the photographer did a horrible job, but maybe that’s just me. He looks awkward. Why in the hell did they shoot him in NYC for anyway? Wouldn’t a nice rural resort in Alaska have been better? He looks awkward and uncomfortable in some of the pics. As they say, confidence is sexy, and he doesn’t look confident – and his not showing his wang just furthers that point – confident guys have no problem with other people seeing their dick.

Then there’s his ass… I’d fuck it, but honestly, I was expecting better.

If you get off thinking about fucking Sarah Palin’s sorta-son-in-law, then these will seem hot to you. But otherwise, I’d stick with something like Frat Men – the guys there are what he should look like if he’s going to do porn for real. But he is an average Joe, so he’s excused for not being in perfect shape on short notice.

I’m hoping he’ll get inspired to do more. After all, I’d love Sarah Palin to have to explain to her grand kid why daddy is doing gay porn…

If you want to see the whole shoot – head over to Playgirl.com.

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Well, America’s favorite baby daddy was in New York this week – Levi Johnston was doing the shoot for Playgirl.

The first day of shooting was apparently at Chelsea Piers where Levi posed with a hockey stick that belonged to a gay guy. It was on this day that I found out that somehow Daniel Nardicio (the infamous gay club promoter) was the point person for Playgirl. That just seemed weird to me, but whatever…

That same day there were reports that The Rivington refused to let them shoot in their penthouse suite, but The Rivington is a pretty hip hotel – I couldn’t see them having a problem with it. Then the news came out that the real story was that Playgirl couldn’t afford to pay for it. That’s just sad.

So then the question was whether we were going to get to see Levi’s baby making cock. Unfortunately, despite the fact that his manager was promising everyone full frontal nudity – none of the pictures show his dick. UGH! I mean, what’s the point? [Of course, what I’d want to see his his hole spread and him shoving a dildo in it or something – but if he ain’t showing his dick, there won’t be no hole either…]

And then to top it all off I find out they only did pictures – no video. What in the hell were they thinking? How difficult can it be to take a video of a photoshoot? They were seriously doing it on the cheap… I guess there’s a reason why Playgirl.com they advertise other sites. Maybe they should take a few pointers off what makes those other sites successful.

Oh well, maybe he’ll get the adult modeling bug and want to do more and he’ll show his dick and hole for some softcore gay porn site… We can only hope.

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On a day when some angry fool is getting press by saying we should be mad about HIV, here’s something we should really get mad about.. An adorable, 19 y.o. gay kid (George Steven Lopez Mercado) was killed in Puerto Rico. But not just killed. He was decapitated, dismembered, partially burned, and then left by the roadside. And it doesn’t end there – the investigating officer says he deserved what he got because he was gay. God, I’d love to be in a room alone with that officer – I’d beat the crap out of him.

We’re being killed on a consistent basis. Many of the people who are getting killed are minorities and either fem or trans. The people around them just won’t accept who they are and think they’re worthy of death. Even if you’re butch and white (like me) this should bother you – deeply.

Make sure your straight (and gay) friends know about this and other killings – like Lawrence King. Even with under-reporting, the FBI says there are 4 anti-gay hate crimes each day and we’ve seen documented periods where one of us is getting killed every 8 days – and that’s just in the US – it doesn’t even start to capture what’s happening worldwide in places like Iraq.